and she is sometimes on the spot. one day, she calls me her best friend. the next, she doesnt even talk to me. and at the end of the day, she asks me, why didnt u talk to me today? wen she is the one who is ignoring me.. i have had several talks with her and am thinking that she is not my best friend. oh and a long time ago we were changing seats in class, ( very odd) and i said,i really want to sit by you. and she said, well, i want to sit with someone else!
HELP
2006-07-03 07:58:41 · 9 answers · asked by hotty_at_yahoo 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Hi Hotty. I had a so-called "best friend" just like this girl. Except I met her in my twenties. She only spent time with me when it was advantageous to her (i.e. going to the beach, mall, out on a Saturday night). I would call her sometimes needing to talk about something serious and she was never there. Never! It sounds like your friend is attempting to break into a social circle at school that is cooler than what she is in now. And, being in that circle does not mean being your friend also. And, when this circle tires of her, she comes running back to you. My friend was the same way. She began hanging out with a group and I was not included. Friends can be toxic sometimes. And, even though we have "best friends," whom we love dearly, that love can sometimes die, and it may be time to move on. I would suggest slowly ending your friendship with her. It will prevent you from feeling hurt, and not being included in activities. Perhaps you could find a new, more broader circle of friends. That way, you could test the waters with them. Find out who you enjoy being around in this circle, before choosing one or two to be more close in friendship with.
2006-07-03 08:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the experience that your persons are not getting you into worry or stepping into it themselves then they're nice and also you should persist with them. You didnt say why your father and mom don't like them yet its been my journey that in the experience that your father and mom don't like someone, they have solid reason. also assembly new friends is problematical. you're likely merely delicate along with your old ones. It takes extra attempt with new ones. yet in case you havent found everyone you would pick to get to charm to close extra acceptable at your college, attempt elsewhere. connect some community activities or church or some thing. you'd be going to varsity next year so as that could help. And definite, it really is what intense college human beings do. communicate **** about one yet another. all and diverse is insecure and picture they have plenty to instruct. maximum persons will mature contained in the subsequent few years. dangle in there.
2016-11-05 21:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well I have the same problem and what I do is try to invite her over whenever I can and show her a great time. Show her that your fun and you want to hang out with her. I also hang out with the people she's hanging out with get to know them. And maybe you'll all become best friends. That's how a met my other best friend.
2006-07-03 08:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Tina F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Try greeting her first everyday and start a conversation. See if she keeps the conversation going or just ignores you after the first 3 min. Maybe she thinks your ignoring her, IDK. Talk to her. I had a best friend who didn't want to be seen with me. Again, i don't know why. I talked to him about it and he just denied it. Were just friends, hardly talk now. But try talking to your friend and see if she is REALLY ignoring you.
Good luck.
2006-07-03 08:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through my 46 years I have had many different "best friends". They change with the seasons and sometimes when you get to know them more you find scarry "baggage."
2006-07-03 08:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by i wear one button suit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her do that to you! Tell her if she wants to be your friend then that's cool, but if she just wants to play head games then she needs to find someone else to do it with. Unfortunately, people who are supposed to be close to us often are just messed up. Good luck.
2006-07-03 08:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit some time aside for the both of you if she cares about you like you said she does then don't waste your time digging up unnecessary drama..luv her,care for her like you should
2006-07-03 08:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by phatty-back14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just ******* hang out with other people and see how she likes it!!
2006-07-03 08:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it. maybe she doesn't know she is hurting your feelings.
2006-07-03 08:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋