Recently I split up with a friend of mine. She was one of those, kind-of-prude, parent-friendly types of people that my kind of parents fawn over. Last night my dad mocked me when we got into a discussion of friends. After asking me why I ditched this friend, he mimicked me in a high voice, "No, daddy, I only hang out with drug addicts and losers,"
How do I show them that the smart and well-mannered people aren't always the only GOOD friends?
2006-07-03 07:55:46 · 13 answers · asked by Picard Facepalm 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Haha, no, I'm not hanging out with crack addicts. My friends are all pretty smart, but just not as much as her, and they are a tad more fun loving.
2006-07-03 08:05:58 · update #1
We aren't the sit-down and chat type of family........
2006-07-03 08:07:04 · update #2
Coming from a dad. I know he only has your best interest in mind. Mimicking you is just a sign of his frustration. He knows that he should let you go and grow up, but you are his precious girl that he wants to protect forever. It is hard for a dad when he realizes that there are other interests in his daughter's life other than him. He is not your knight in shining armor any more.
Your friends are a way he might be able to feel assured that you are safe. I have known many people that can come across good is some situations and really be bad. You need to let him know that you still love him and respect him. (He will respect you for it) He might give you a little credit for it to.
2006-07-03 08:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by vahrens71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents are not perfect. Sometimes in frustration even the most well meaning of moms and dads can be insensitive. Do you hang out with drug addicts and losers? Maybe the sarcasm is the only way your dad feels he can voice his concern, without becoming vunerable in front of you. It's not easy, but opening your self to them is a good step towards trust and mutual understanding. You don't have to tell them everything about your life you are entitled to some privacy, but by making them feel welcome into your life will help them understand your friend choices.
2006-07-03 08:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attend a new school and join some extracurricular activities like painting and dancing. We move to Vancouver in about a month and we will check up on real painting and writing courses as well as photography. We will be close to the symphony, too. BC Lions tickets and rock and reggae concerts, man. Wicked. Just get a new life. Find new people to spend time with. Stay away from prudes and lowlifes.
2006-07-03 08:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are worried about you. If you are hanging out with drug addicts and other people that have problems you might develop the same problems. They may be fun to be around, but that does not make them good friends. Good friends contribute positive things to the relationship and both of you win.
2006-07-03 08:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Norm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, try to have a sit down, CALM, talk to them about it. Second, more than likely, they already know, but just want some answers about what happened. Third, if all else fails, just know that you made the right decision and go out and make more friends. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders.
2006-07-03 08:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Becky C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are only concerned about you. They don't want you to be a drunken alcoholic baby baring maching that is strung out on drugs and sleeping under bridges with drug dealers on welfare!! Listen a little to them. You are young and have a lot of time left to do what YOU want, listening now may be the difference in the above mentioned and happiness later.
2006-07-03 08:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by dan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By allowing them to see your other good friendship relationships. If not see at least mention your other friends and how they have helped you out. But I have a question for you...why would you want a friend that was not well-mannered? I don't know how old you are but you do have to be careful of those you allow to be in your inner circle.
2006-07-03 08:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by kornbread1306 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is concerned only with your future welfare and happiness. If your friends are not drug addicts and losers you should stand by them. However, if your father is correct you should listen to him. Children seem to dismiss the fact that their parents were at one time children themselves. You are, in all probability, an intelligent person but please keep in mind that intelligence has nothing to do with wisdom and/or common sense.
2006-07-03 08:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by C.B. M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:0 you don't love making acquaintances? DUDE i'd kill myself if I had no acquaintances (no longer extremely) you would possibly want to extremely pass out and make acquaintances -.- they keep you busy and up to date :) i recognize making new acquaintances as an party: ive been interior a similar biology classification for this finished 3 hundred and sixty 5 days, and that i purely began to change into acquaintances with 2 men I wasn't acquaintances with earlier, they're fantastic keep me giggling :)
2016-11-30 05:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by segundo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's sad to hear girl, i wish parents would believe more in their children and realise their potential in that way. Honestly I think you can't persuade them if they've made up their minds. Only thing is to pray and ask God to intercede , because He is the only one that brings truth to a situation
2006-07-03 08:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋