why do they say they love you then they treat you like crap?
2006-07-03 07:50:27 · 14 answers · asked by readyhead42@yahoo.com 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's simple they've either been hurt, abused, or they have never been loved before ( or in love). The best way to deal with a man of this such is to express yourself to him. If his actions dont change then he's not the one for you. Set standards and go from there.
2006-07-03 08:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by BOSSY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are just mean, rude and obsessive naturally. That is just the way they are in life. Some people are sweet, some are nice and some are rude. That is the way people just are...
Now a guy will typical treat a woman like crap, because he can get away with it. Most women are very insecure and let their guy walk all over them. If the guy can get away with it, he will. He knows that no matter what, she will come running back to him.
2006-07-03 14:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actions speak louder than words, if they treat you like crap they might not love you, or they dont know how to treat a woman. If i like a guy, I look at this parents relationship, and how they were raised, if they're cool, he is usually cool. Or he needs to know better.
2006-07-03 14:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an abuser in the making. There are plenty of nice guys out there, keep looking till you find one that treats you right. The one you describe doesn't deserve your time or attention.
2006-07-03 14:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because there controlling freaks who have no self esteem and pick on people who are kind and thought full, I had boyfriends like that before and I decide that I would rather be alone that miserable and unhappy and being picked on. And now I stick up for myself and No man would ever treat me like that and get away with it ! Trust me there not worth it, and there are alot of guys out there that don't have issues and are kind and considerate! you just have to stick up for your self and get rid of the stupid idiots!
2006-07-03 14:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Pompin Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pride is one thing. But PLEASE, if they treat you bad LEAVE them. Their form of love is not love. Love is NOT controlling or abusive. Love is kind, gentle and joyous. Guys like you've described have controlling issues. Most often they need to "feel like men," ergo they need to "dominate" something. Do NOT let that be you. Stand up for yourself, do NOT be afraid to get help if he starts threatening you or getting violent. If he truly loves you and wants to stay with you, then tell him he needs to see a counseler, if he doesn't want to or says he doesn't have any problems, then leave. He might try to lovey-dovey you and buy you back but please DON'T fall for it.
2006-07-03 14:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by Spike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so true, they just wana use the gurl, keep in their trick and then throw her like garbage, some guyz are like that but not all. try 2 find a better guy, there r much fishes in the water, better ones, not rooten and old~
feel better
2006-07-03 16:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
must because women want that kind of treatment, we hear it every day . why not just find a nice guy? not enough excitement?
2006-07-03 14:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by truthteller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are users and abusers.get rid of them.they get excited from hurting people.do you want to give them even more power?
2006-07-03 14:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by MystiMi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they're insecure!
2006-07-03 15:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by msdent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋