My friends are all shorter than me and skinnier ,and theres times when they joke around telling me im the fat one in the group or i need to lose some wait...but i know in reality there not joking. Not to be conceaded or anything im prettier than all of them but i just weigh more when they al weigh like 100 pounds. I've asked my doctor if im overweight but he says im fine for my age and i thought i looked good to . I try to ignore them but its hard i just wanna be normal. I dont know is it just a teen thing? I dont wanna be over weight ..i wanna look good when i wear a dress or a swimsuit.! what should i do!!!!???!!!!
2006-07-03 07:28:56 · 49 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Here is your first mistake...You are calling these girls your friends...If they were your friends then they wouldn't be telling you this and if you truly are better looking than them and fine with the way you look then they are just jealous of you and trying to pick on you about something...Get new friends because these girls are not your friends. They are insecure b!tches who are trying to bring you down to their insecure level and it looks like it is working.
2006-07-03 07:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am 27, I remember my teen years I was kind of in the same predicament. I will say that some of these feelings are moe applified being a teen, at least when I was younger I thought the problems I felt were so much more that what they actually were....but that doesn't matter they still matter, they bother you and it is not nice of your friends to say things like this....you are taller!!! your lucky and 125 lbs my dear your a feather!!!
I was always the taller one in my group and I always wanted to be smaller, more petite, but as I got older....and was able to realize different things that there are some things about that I cannot change...like shrinking so you know what I did? I buy heels or (Volatile--brand of shoe) there taller because I have always liked the look of tall shoes....so instead of being 5'7" I am 5'10" sometimes taller...and now I love the feeling of being taller.
I know it is hard to ignore friends...but a true friend doesn't rag on another friend for being taller or shorter, thinner or fatter etc.
But there is such a stigma for girls to be thin nowadays...I think twice as worse than when I was a teen. You are perfect the way you were made and the girls that have the problem with you being taller or whatever are insecure about themselves....in fact I am sure they are wishing they are taller like you right now...
I know it is a pain being a teen sometimes...I think it was the hardest part of my life so far. Things will turn out better as time goes on and you will eventually feel more comfortable in your own skin...despite what others say...it is hard to ignore them but a small part of those people in reality are probably jealous of you.
Have a good day--JammieGirl
2006-07-03 07:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by jaded_illusions78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've heard it all here: 125 is perfect for 5'4"; use your own judgement, not your friends'; listen to your doctor; etc, etc. I'll give you a practical example:
I went on a diet when I was 105lb because I wanted to be 100lb. Yes, I lost the 5, easy! I was about 15 at the time. A few months later & was 108. Did it again & back to 99. Repeat over & over & in 10 years I was almost 200lb. Each time trying to set reasonable target weights, each time being so careful of what I ate. Not only did I gain it all back with a bit more each time, but it was hell! Who wants to live like that?
After I gave up dieting, my weight has barely changed. Yes, I'm a fat woman, but I know from experience that it would be much worse (& I'd be very miserable) if I'd go back to the yo-yo of weight loss. Please don't travel that road. I beg you.
Now, if you (& only you) decide you want to be fitter (it's not the same as thinner), take up a sport, something you like, something you enjoy, something that's not a chore, & above all something that you can do for the rest of your life. Biking, running, tennis, swimming, anything. Your weight may not be lower (you may even gain some pounds in muscle), but your health will be better & you'll be able to eat almost anything you like without getting fat.
Best wishes.
2006-07-03 08:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop letting other people decide how you should look what you should wear. You got the best advice from your Dr who what, attended medical school for years and knows Lot's more then your friends. Why are your friends being so immature and petty after all it's your life you have to do what is best for you and not listen to other people who try to give you a recipe for life. I'm sure if you look them over carefully you can find something they need to work on as well. Be true to yourself and don't worry about the weight, they want be the ones marrying you and you sound happy and content live your life for you and not them. In 5 years 99% of these people you'll never see again.
2006-07-03 07:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Zoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw out the fashion magazines. They perpetuate the myth that anorexic beauty standards will make you a happier, better person. People are being taught that image is a status symbol and that being beautiful is more important than anything else.
If it makes you feel better, get screened for depression or an eating disorder. Do this only if you really feel this pressure is affecting you adversely on an ongoing and serious basis.
Work out more. You will feel good about yourself if you are doing one the following: yoga, dance classes, tennis, swimming laps, walks, horsebackriding, aerobics, etc...
Don't weigh yourself too often, maybe once a week. Ban discussions about weight at home and watch everything you eat but avoid strict diets. You will settle into a comfortable routine. Don't fight your natural weight or bone structure.
Every time you go on a strict diet or fast, your metabolism goes down more. To rejuvenate your natural metabolic state, exercise and eat a high-fibre diet with lots of fruits and veggies. Stay away from red meat and dairy except for special occasions. If you eat a lot of fish, eggs, chicken, whole grains, tofu, etc. you will look and feel better. Enjoy coffee and soda but don't overdo it. Stay away from fast food except maybe a splurge once a month.
2006-07-03 07:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your doctor. The doctor is giving you his honest advice and opinion. The fact of the matter is that you ARE normal and your friends ARE NOT. When your friends tell you that you are fat they are being insensitive and cruel. If your friends are also 5'4 and weigh only 100 pounds or less they have a serious problem. Your friends are immature and have no respect for your feelings or self-esteem. You don't need friends such as these. Do yourself a favor and find a group of friends who will treat you properly.
2006-07-03 07:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by C.B. M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose the weight if your doctor says you're fine.
What you can do is try and gain some muscle. Do pilates or yoga and tone up, which makes you look thinner and sleeker (but it might make you weigh more, since muscle is heavier than fat).
Don't stress about your weight. It's just a number. Rather concern yourself with being healthy and fit. If you starve yourself, there's no point in LOOKING thin, and not having the energy to go out to the beach and have fun.
2006-07-03 07:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to love yourself and not base how you feel about your looks on what other people say. If you are unhappy with your weight because YOU feel that way then talk with your doctor. If he/she thinks you could stand to lose a few pounds then by all means...go for it. BUT...only if it's what you want for yourself. There is a lot of pressure on teen girls to look a certain way...act a certain way....but you know what? Once you are an adult you wil see that people come in many different shapes. If they are so shallow that they put you down and make you feel bad then I would consider making some different friends...ones who will love you for the you inside. Best of luck.
2006-07-03 07:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by silent.peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weight has nothing to do with the body. Different people are shaped differently. You sound perfectly healthy to me. You should think less about the way people see you and more about your energy level. If you want to loose weight that is your choice, but so it in a healthy and balanced weight. I would recomend about...2 pounds! I am just five foot and I am about 110 lbs. I am thicker and less thin than most girls my age. I'm also a teen; personal appearance is almost everything to most teens. I realized when I was thirteen that my body did not need to loose anymore weight, and that i was healthy. You've got to realize that, too.
2006-07-03 07:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For 5'4 you are at a good weight. When I was a teen friends always make remarks about each other. Take no notice dont lower yourself to their level. Keep your healthy weight you will be glad in the end and just remember muscle weighs more than fat.
2006-07-03 07:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Danceoflfie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl number one= your doctor is hitting on you lol!
number two= if your friends are teasing you then they arent really friends. what they are doing is NOT cool! you shouldnt feel pressure because you are fine for your hieght. if you lost weight youd be like Paris hilton or some thing tall and too skinny. you definitly dont want that! stay your size and tell your "friends" to shut the hell up. and if they weight 100 they shoul better be five feet tall. your gonna look great in a swimsuit or dress. try that sexy two peice girly!
2006-07-03 07:33:15 · answer #11 · answered by macey_brasil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋