My dad fights with everything my mom says and Im scared that my dad might try to take me and my brother away.I don't want to go live with him he's to mean and I don't want to be away from my brother. Im scared that he will try to take everything away from my mom.I know him he probably will try.
2006-07-03 07:10:25 · 25 answers · asked by Any Questions ask me. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, there's nothing you can do. It's their choice, I know, my parents got divorced when I you young. It still effects my relationships because I don't want it to happen to me too. Depending on how old you are, you have a right to decide which parent you want to live with full time. Only if you're over 14. Everything will be ok, I know it doesn't seem like it right now but it will. Just let life take it's course. There's no point trying to fix something that you can't fix.
2006-07-03 07:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are going to get a divorce there is nothing you can do. There is no way your father will be able to take everything from your mom because the courts won't let him. During the custody phase of the divorce you and your brother will proably be allowed to talk to the judge about who you want to live with. It depends on the state but some states will allow a child of 7 to decide, most of the time younger children are put into the mother's custody. All you and your brother can do at this point is to try and make things as easy for your mom as possible, she is probably very emotional right now and any trouble you get into will only add to her stress, believe me she will greatly appreciate your efforts to make this go as smoothly as possible and it will go much smoother for you and your brother as well.
2006-07-15 07:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm really sorry you are going through this. First of all, your mom has rights. Your father may think he has all the rights here, but he doesn't. If your mom has been a good mom, then there is no way he can legally take you away from her. Your mom will be entitled to 50% of everything they own, so its really important that if it does come down to them splitting up, that she get a lawyer right away. If you are a teenager, which I suspect you may be, then you have rights too, and you can definitely voice your opinion of who you would like to live with. If your mom has been a stay at home mom with the kids, and your dad has worked, then she is also entitled to child support and possibly spousal support. I just went through all this, and I feel bad that I put my kids through it too (they were 12&13 at the time), but the fighting and stress of living with their dad just wasn't good for any of us either. Good luck sweetie, its a rotten thing for a kid to have to deal with, and I hope you have people you can talk to for support. You're not alone, thats for sure!
2006-07-03 07:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Catherine n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce is out of your control. Depending on your age, you may have some say in your placement with the judge. Talk to a counselor at school. Try not to get involved in the problems that are between your parents. Your only part of this will be where you live. Although you sympathize with your mom, there is nothing you can do for her. Hang in there.
2006-07-11 08:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by jodi M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My paretns got a divorice when I was 5 years old. It has been many years. Through out the process my mom and I always talked and I was allowed to ask questions. THe biggest thing that I know is that CHILDREN NEVER CAUSE A DIVORICE. IT is only the grownup. I was afraid of my dad too. Your mom and the courts will protect you if from your dad. You MAY have to talk to someone from the court. You need to tell them that your dad it mean and your are afraid of him. IN the meantime, if your dad touches you in any bad way call 911 Don't worry everything will be OK. Email me anytime you need to chat.
2006-07-03 07:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Rock_N_Roll_Chicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people get to this point, they say alot of things out of anger... what they actually do and what they can do is different. I have been through the same things and my spouse was mean and said the say things. But honestly most men wouldnt be able to handle the schedule of a mom. Men say things to be hurtful and they are going to attack what ever they think is the most valuable to us... being our children. If it helps any.. after all is said and done, my kids 1 girl, 1 boy are with me. Try to get away when they argue, you need to be a kid still and not have to have all these extra worries.
2006-07-17 07:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mother about how you feel. Your parents HAVE every right to know that if they get a divorce, your life is going to change as well too and they should listen to what makes you happy.
Usually the mother gets custody of the children unless the mother is unfit to take care of the kids. Also if they divorce, your mom is entitled to child support to financially take care of you and your brother. Take care and I will pray for you.
2006-07-17 06:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy and encourage them. Mothers especially stay in abusive marriages because are thinking about the children but, every suffers in an abusive situation. Encourage them and maybe some day after the divorce they usually become more civil to each other ..This is a win win situation
2006-07-03 07:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by Richgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents relationship is not your problem. Hopefully they'll learn to keep a civil home for you and your brother during this difficult time. You can ask them to do this, as it's your life too. Do you have a grandma or aunt that you can talk to? Try that. Good luck and hope the best for you.
2006-07-03 10:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still young then your Father cannot take you away. It would be up to a judge to make that decision otherwise, you stay with your Mother.
Now when you get oledr around 14 or 15 you can decide for your self who you want to stay with.
2006-07-17 07:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋