I was a fool and no matter how much he cheated and through it in my face and hurt me and brought me down i always took him back..He is bac to talking to his other X and she is OBBSESSED with him like 70 voicmails 200 missed calls and he cheated on me with her not once but 3 times during our relationship..he said he loved me and he wanted a kid so i go t pregnant now he wants me to get an abortion and doesnt care about me at all..he says he does but i dont think so..im geting stronger and walking away from him is alot easier but Im pregant with his kid {really my kid) and I work with him we work in the same company..i cant quite my job i wont find one anywere else in time and i really need money..I wanna get revenge on him i want him to hurt as bad as me but I dont know how..or even if thats the right thing to do so any advice could help..thanks
2006-07-03 06:42:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can understand your need for revenge, but it's really yourself that you're mad at and not him, it's just easier to attack him than it is yourself. But, don't beat yourself up over this. We have all been there-you wanted his promises and lies to be true-you wanted him to be the man that you thought he was. It seems to me that you are starting to move on and I am sure that it's difficult to work with him everyday without smashing his face every time you see him. Unfortunately, only time is going to heal what he has done to you. I also think that you are making the right decision in staying at your job, especially if it is a good one.
If you want this child don't listen to him tell you to get an abortion. Do what you have to do to take care of this baby. As for child support, take his behind to court. Don't discuss it with him or anything-he has already made his position to you on your baby clear. When you start to show, if he decides he wants to talk about the baby-no matter what he says-your response should always be 'this is my child and I will decide what is best'.
Now the really hard part, how to deal with seeing him every day. You may not realize it, but you're boyfriend is not a happy man-not really. He may be having fun right now, but men like him are always looking for something and they either don't know what it is so they are always looking or they think they know what it is and never find it. Try this-When ever you see him or him and her, just think to yourself what your life and your babys life would have been like in five years if you stayed with him and not the fantasy that you have/had in your head, but the reality of the idiot goofball standing in front of you. That should give you a smile and make you realize that everything will turn out ok.
2006-07-03 07:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard, been there done that. You can & will make it. Your baby will bring u a of love & joy, so try to think about the little one inside you. He is not worth doing anything too. In time he'll get payed back. Good Luck to u & your baby! God bless u both!
My little one is 4 now, we don't see him r hear from him, but we r making it.
2006-07-03 07:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by Just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep your baby if that's what you want to do, I'm pro choice about that sorda thing, revenge you don't need to do anything God will see to that just worry about you and you little one, one thing i do say is get him for child support because your not the only one that was in bed making that baby and make him responsible for his actions
good luck to you and your baby.
2006-07-03 06:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by QUEEN OF LOS ANGELES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't never took him back especially get pregnant. just keep your job save your money and dont put any attention to him. when the baby comes make him pay child support. that alone is going to hurt him. you dont need him to raised your child.
stay strong
2006-07-03 06:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just get child support have someone else drop the baby off for his times so you don't have to see him away from work.I wouldn't do anything for revenge he might sic crazy on you and she will boil your bunny rabbit.
2006-07-03 06:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Addie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're in a chilly trailer without nutrients, yet yet take care of to have a workstation with internet get proper of entry to. sounds like you want to strengthen up and get a job, as you'll quickly have yet another mouth to feed.
2016-10-14 02:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell him u cheated on him and u know that the baby isn't his..... But it was to hard for u to tell him in the beginning...... i think that'll hurt him!!..... either way....... u dont need himi n u'r life now a days there are so many place u can go and get help ..... so u'r not the only one........
2006-07-03 06:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋