2006-07-03 06:34:59 · 15 answers · asked by simple1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I havent read the answers posted but would advice that now is the time to do some deep reflection.
It takes two to make a successful marriage and two to make an unsuccessful marriage. Regardless what some say.
Some say "my husband does so and so", "My husband says so and so" etc..but even if he is the one doing or saying etc your reaction to it is still that..and ACTION! So examine your role either by being the active faulty one or the passive faulty one.
I dont mean to sound harsh..but I have found so many women take the stand that they gave and gave and gave but got nothing back in a marriage..when in fact they didnt give in a loving way and had expectations that couldnt be met no matter what the husband did.
Best of luck to you! Take that time to reflect. Even ask close friends to give honest answers to your question. Tell them that its a life changing moment for you and you want to learn from your mistakes and will with their help. They may know what your problem is but are affraid of hurting your feelings.
Just a bit of past history here..I had 2 friends come to me complaining about their sorry husbands.both for different reasons and how they were considering divorce. they asked my opinion and my reply was the same... "it takes courage to leave a bad relationship just as it takes courage to repair a broken relationship." I commend you on your courage either way!
(married 20+ years)
2006-07-03 08:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you fall into the category of "good people, bad choices". No dear, you're not a freak...it may have just taken 2 marriages before you realized what you truly want from a partner. Best advice I can give you is to empower yourself. Get to know who you are and what you want out of life and out of love. Do some soul searching, my friend. Get to know yourself before entering into another relationship. At age 26 is usually when most people do start looking at life and themselves differently. Start looking at yourself more as a new friend you'd like to get to know better....re-establish your self relationship and your other relationships in your life will get better as you get better. Please know that you deserve the very best that life has to offer, and don't settle for less! The only limitations we have are the ones we put on ourselves. Oh, and don't carry the full burden of these two failed marriages...there is always two to make or break any relationship...if you try to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, eventually you'll crumble as it's too much to hold.
2006-07-03 06:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking what's wrong is a good question. Find the common factor in both husbands, and both divorces and fix it. It may be a problem with you yourself, or simply you choosing the wrong men......which again is your problem. Once you see the common denominator, you can refrain from repeating. That's often why people divorce over and over.......they never bother to find out why and simply keep making the same exact mistake over and over.
2006-07-03 06:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impossible to tell you the real reason for that change in your life.
Except maybe that your are a little bit like me and often need something new, evolution and new adventure... Being with a steady person may be too engaging for you. Maybe your partners were like this.
Try find someone objective without limits and wanting to follow your dynamic style of living ;-)
2006-07-03 06:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes 2 people to make a marriage work. So, if your marriages fail, it's not all your fault. Give yourself some credit. And, don't settle for the first guy that comes along again. Be selective. You owe it to yourself.
2006-07-03 06:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Kat_Christ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "picker" is just broke! (hehe) There is nothing wrong with you. This is not our first marriage either (his 3rd, her 2nd). Takes a LOT to stay together. Whatever you did the first 2 times, don't do that again, try a different path.
2006-07-03 06:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by Smiley girl and guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's impossible to answer without knowing more about you, and the choices you've made in men. If you're serious about an answer, I'd need a lot more detail.
2006-07-03 06:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit getting married. Why would you marry twice so young?
2006-07-03 09:08:49 · answer #8 · answered by Craig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not you, it is the people you marry, dont get so into it next time. just because they ask you to marry doenst mean you should, or if you like them alot dont marry them so quick, get to know the people befroe you think about getting married.good luck.
2006-07-03 06:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Stuff happens. I'm wife #4. And couldn't be happier
2006-07-03 06:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lori M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋