Ok, so im pregnant and im 17 years old. i dont really want a baby now!! WHAT SHOULD I DO??

Question

I dont wanna be pregnant but i dont want to do abortion. what should i do???

God i no what i did was wrong and everyones making it tougher IM NOT GONNA DO ABORTION but i need advice

Answer 1

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this at such a young age qtpie, but if you do not want an abortion, then you are going to stay pregnant (unless you do something stupid and dangerous to yourself and your baby). If an abortion is out of the question, then consider adoption. It will be hard for you, but there are many couples out there who would love to adopt your child.
In the meantime, get yourself to the doctor for prenatal care, and educate yourself on how best to care for yourself and your baby. And get yourself a support system - whether you keep the baby or give her up, you will need all the extra help you can get. Please feel free to IM if you need to talk. Best wishes, and good luck.

Answer 2

Really consider the reasons you don't want a baby. Is it because you are just afraid? I would not suggest you get an abortion to just make it go away because you will never forget it and will most likely regret it. I was in your situation 10 years ago but I was 16. My son is now one of the best things that ever happened to me. I used to drink and party, but after I had him I put my life on track. I am now happily married with two kids and another on the way. I have a good job and a better support system. Talk to your parents or someone you trust. BUT PLEASE GET PRENATAL CARE! Remember Abortion is not a birth control, and Parenthood is what you make it. It will be hard but in the long run it will be well worth it. I also considered abortion and I thank GOD everyday that I didn't do it.

Answer 3

Adoption. That baby deserves a chance whether it is with you or someone else who will love it unconditionally. You said you don't really want a baby NOW, but once that baby is born are you sure you will feel the same way? Go to a pregnancy counselor, talk to your friends or maybe some other young mothers who have been through what you are going through. My kids weren't planned but I wouldn't trade them for anything. I respect you for not wanting an abortion, so many girls your age get scared and do it then end up regretting it. Just make sure you give your baby a good home whether it be with you or a couple who wants to adopt. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well first off you should have thought about that before you opened your legs. The only answer that contains any morality is to give up for a adaption. The first thing before that though is to start searching for Christ get your life right with him pick up a bible and learn about life and then you will have the holy spirit to help you to say no to sex until your married. Do not have a abortion. Abortions are the easy way out in the end because you choose to have sex you have chosen to risk getting pregnant and so this unborn child has not chosen death you must let it have the life you allowed to conceive and if you can't take care of it there are literally hundreds of couple that want children and can't so let them adapt it

Answer 5

Thank God that there other options besides abortion, there is adoption too. What about the father and his family, your family, is there someone who might be willing to adopt the baby? The adoption agencies these days are a lot better then they were before. I know because I considered adoption myself, I found an agency where I was the one selecting the parents and just I could set it up that my child would recieve a letter from me at the age of 18, I could be kept updated on their life as they grew-up. I chose not to though. They is a lot of information out there seek it out. Good Luck!

Answer 6

You should certainly seek out some counseling. It will not always be easy, but I think you've already made a courageous decision not to have an abortion. Putting the baby up for adoption is always an option, and if you are not ready for motherhood, this too would be a courageous decision.

At the very least, be aware of any "Safe Haven" laws in your state that would allow you to leave your baby at a hospital, fire dept or police dept in your state, no questions asked, shortly after the arrival of your baby.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Don't be scared or worried....You need to talk to a professional. Think about adoption - there are many women who cant have children. And there's always abortion. But be prepared for everything...the only way to do that is by speaking to a professional. You may also want to confide in a good friend or the man who helped make the baby. Then once you've decided what your next step is consider brith control to ensure you don't find yourself in this situation again.

Answer 8

If abortion is not an option for you, then you have two choices. You can accept the fact that you are pregnant and be a mother to that baby or give that baby up for adoption. There are millions of couple out there that are looking to adopt a child. You dont have a lot of options outside of abortion, keeping it, or giving it up for adoption.

Answer 9

Look into adoption. It is not as bad as some think, and you will be making someone incredibly happy by doing a very unselfish and responsible thing. There are so many places to go to find out, look in the phone book, even under "abortion alternatives" in the yellow pages. You will be able to live with yourself and your child will be in a home with people who love him/her and are more than prepared to have a child. You can choose the family, meet them, even keep in contact with them after the birth. It is really a good alternative if you don't want to have an abortion. Good luck, and you can email me at [e-mail] if you want to talk more about it.

Answer 10

by the end of your pregnancy you will have a bond with your child that you will not want to give up. I had my first when I was 18. That was only a few years ago. You will not regret keeping your child. I guarantee it. If you are a junky or a meth head or anything, give the baby up, but if you are a healthy mom who has no intentions of harming your child than keep it! I don't like being pregnant, but the reward is so worth it. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

Answer 11

Yeah I would consider an open adoption. If you don't want to do that, have the baby and build up a good support system around you to help you out. The government also has programs that help single mothers buy food and go to school. I went through basically the same thing and we both survived. Please don't have an abortion. You will never forgive yourself. Trust me about that.