Im not married as yet but my boyfriend wants to and Im afraid that this will dampen our almost non-existant sex life.
2006-07-03 06:10:28 · 17 answers · asked by hotsexy_trini 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I don't think that its strange for sex to NOT be a necessity. I'm 24 ... and don't get me wrong, sex is great, but its not something I HAVE TO HAVE everyday or a certain number of times a week. I think you should discuss your concerns with your boyfriend ... alot of newlyweds say that the excitement of marriage actually sparks up your sex life ... it might just be that added spark that you need to get your intimacy to a level higher than "non-existant". That is, if you're ready for marriage and you really want to spend the rest of your life with this person.
2006-07-03 06:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are strangely enough not attracted to sex, or having it with another partner. Is it that he isn't satisfying your needs, or do you just not have an interest all together? You could try to spice things up by trying out new things like positions, or even role play a little. Not saying you have to get whips and chains or anything like that, but if something is done the same way over and over it gets old in time, and maybe it is time to change the routine. If he truly loves you for what you are, then he won't change after you are married, and will accept the fact that you aren't all that interested. I would seek professional help with that as for it could be an underlying problem that is causing you to feel that way. There are so many things that could be causing you to feel that way. I wish you the best.
2006-07-03 13:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by iiboogeymanii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you are weird or if there is something wrong but you are not alone. copy and past this link also do a google search for the word asexual. Before I'd commit to a life of asexuality I'd go get some professional help. Maybe there is something simple that they can help you with. If your boyfriend is like you, you will get along fine but if he is not, you will have problems. They talk about this affect on relationships on Dr. Phill all the time. You can check out his site too.
http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/science/10/14/asexual.study/
2006-07-03 13:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by goose1077 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know what to tell you there. If you're not in the mood then you're not. Although there are way of getting in the mood, try 4 play. Have him play around with you and see if you feel any different. OH watch talk sex on oxygen week night at I think 9 or 10. if that doesn't work watch a porn with him.
Juggiejones OUT
2006-07-03 13:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shalyn V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine how you feel. I don't need much sex either (once a week at most, preferably once every ten days). I've always been thinking that there's something wrong with me, but my boyfriend assured me that it is completely normal and that many girls are just like that. Most women don't want sex as much as men do, despite what female right activists or whoever say.
2006-07-03 13:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Kaytee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not weird, its only that at the moment you are not tht interested, but you will, some pple say at 30 and above most women love sex more, could be true. coz im 25 married, no babies, and i dont like sex that much. i think love is all we need, you could have all the sex with the most handsome men but still you dont feel secure and loved, so what is the use of sex?
2006-07-03 13:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people Love having sex with their loved one.But their are some out there that just don't find the need for it.It could be you are one of those people,or you might not like your boyfriend as much as you thought.Either way it's not a crazy thing.Your not a weirdo or anything.
2006-07-03 13:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by sherrie_1994 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- have you and your partner been monogamous for quite some time? If so, then it is only natural that your sex drive will decrease. If you'd like to do something about it, start reading erotic fiction, try something new (positions, toys, lubes, etc) or take a vacation together for a change of pace and scenery. New lingerie works wonders ;)
2006-07-03 13:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not interested in sex it might be you but more than likely it could just be a lack of attraction to your boyfriend.
2006-07-03 13:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a part of a relationship but,
Its not the most important thing in the world.
But it sounds like you have some phobia about it
2006-07-03 13:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by snakeman11426 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋