I am not a particulary religious person but I was raised in church and although I do alot of wrong things myself, I still know those things are wrong. When I mention it being wrong to just live with someone , people think I have a problem. I just believe in marriage, sorry. Why is everyone so afraid of marriage? It seems everyone wants the benefits without the committment. Living together is NOT the same as bieng married. What ever happended to trying something again if it doesn't work. If you have a car accident, do you give up driving and walk? I bet not. I am not a flake for believing in traditional values, married couples with legitimate children.
2006-07-03 06:10:26 · 21 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are right on for thinking the way you do.
It was when people started "playing house" and giving themselves the sexual freedoms that the divorce rates skyrocketed. People often are heard saying..people change, society changes..well..marriage certainly has changed..now its unnecessary or a disposable commodity in most eyes! Sad. very sad!
Stick to your guns! The world needs more people like you to speak out. People can scoff at what you are saying..but secretely they know you are right but too ashamed that they are affraid to work for something! They always want the easy route!
(married 20+ years)
2006-07-03 08:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hoary for You!! There's nothing wrong with believing in morals, it's just that society has gotten so relaxed in letting people do what they want that some are trying to change it to their benefit. Keep thinking and live your values to be a happy person. It's the best way to start your life for it to work out if you openly let others know that there's nothing wrong with you, they are the ones taking advantage of someone else, not you. Why would you get the piece of paper if you don't have to? The only thing that changes if it's gotten are the headaches get worse.
2006-07-03 13:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you in many ways however I lived with my husband before we got married. I couldn't get along with my parents if I lived at home and I didn't have enough money for an apt of my own. I don't really agree with it either but that's the way it happened and I don't regret it. I think that it is sad how many people don't have morals anymore. It seems that whatever anyone feels like doing they should do and it's okay no matter what. Sounds kinda like the hippie era where you just do what feels good. I don't think you're a flake at all--you sound like a good person not a flake!
2006-07-03 13:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by sclair82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your morals maybe different than others. Does being married make a relationship valid? If there is the same level of commitment does it really matter if there is a piece of paper to prove it? If a man and woman are totally dedicated to each other and raising their family then I don't think it matters if they are married first.
2006-07-03 13:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by miss_nursie_nurse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think pepole are affraid of marriage maybe for a few reasons like divorce or just the feeling that they are going to be tied down to somebody forever.marriage is a big decion and shouldnt be taken lightly.i do belive that pepole should try to live together befor they get married because you really dont know somebody until you live with them.like what if you meet a guy he seemed perfect then you get married onlny to find out that he did soomethiing wierd like bit off his toenails in bed or pee in the shower it might not stop you from loveiing him but i might make you think twice.
2006-07-03 13:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by sar sar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish the world was populated with more people like you. But you're an endangered species, I think. At least it seems that way when listening to others. Don't change. And I hope you have or will have a husband who appreciates your commitment and traditional values.
2006-07-03 13:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by nothing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my oldest son father and VERY thankful that I never married him. Our relationship was good for 4 years then all of a sudden he became a control freak. I left. My husband and I lived together for 2 years before we got married. There's nothing wrong with it! My mom didn't believe in living with someone and not be married. But to this day she wished she would have lived with my step father before they married.
2006-07-03 13:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lori M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone chooses to live with their significant other either in lieu of marriage or before, doesn't mean they don't have morals. I live with my boyfriend and have no regrets about it. That doesn't mean I'm a completely immoral person. I still think it's important to work hard, be kind to other people and be just a generally good person. We all have different aspect of morality that we focus on. For you it's the importance of marriage, for me it's the importance of being kind and accepting of others. It doesn't make either of us wrong, or either of us bad people. It just makes us different. And how boring would the world be if we werent???
2006-07-03 13:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by Brit 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are a flake... I have "lived" with someone when I was much younger however.... I wish I would have waited and got married. In this crazy world hold on to your morals and values. Good Luck :-)
2006-07-03 13:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good point. But I think the quality of the relationship--how the two people treat each other--is far more important that whether they've gone thru some ceremony or other.
By the way, Happy 4th of July! I hope you don't have to work.
2006-07-03 13:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋