she doesn't have anyhwere to go, and she has her son with her which is my godson. she talks about everyone and everything..she criticize my relationship with my son's father, but her son don't see his..my son see's his father atleast 3x's a week...i hate the situation and i want her out...but how do i do that...and we fought because i finally spoke up and she hit first..
2006-07-03 06:06:37 · 17 answers · asked by Needtoknow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
kick her out but give her some time to get her act togeather if she dosent kick her out
2006-07-03 06:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Desmond H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Misery loves company. Your friend sounds like she is sad, lonely and depressed. Considering her current situation, she is in need of a bit of counseling. If she is your "friend", sit her down and tell her that you care for her and her well-being and ask her what is wrong? Open the door for an honest talk and when the opportunity arises suggest that she should see her physician, she may be depressed and there are a number of medications available that can help her. Cries for help come in all kinds of disguises, so don't look for the obvious. Show her that you care and suggest the doctor, if she refuses then you have every right to tell her that unless she changes her attitude, you will be forced to ask her to leave. The welfare of your child and yourself must come before hers. As for the hitting, she got away with it once, but it won't happen again.
2006-07-03 06:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL
1. IF SHE WAS A FRIEND SHE WOULD NOT HAVE HIT YOU....
2. IF SHE REALLY HAD NO WHERE TO GO SHE WOULD HAVE NEVER PUT HER HANDS ON YOU....
3. JAIL IS A NICE PLACE TO GO FOR ASSULT....
4. AT THIS POINT SHE NEEDS TO GO..... MAYBE THE REASON SHE CAME TO YOU WAS BECAUSE HER FAMILY GOT TIRED OF HER USING THEM AND PUT HER *** OUT ON THE STREET...
5. YOU NEED TO PROTECT YOU AND YOUR CHILD SHE SOUNDS LIKE SHE IS JEALOUS OF YOUR LIFE THAT IS WHAT THIS IS REALLY ABOUT...
6. DRIVE HER TO A SHELTER AND DROP HER *** OFF( WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN NEXT TIME WILL SHE GET A KNIFE ETC... THINK ABOUT THAT)
THESE ARE ALL SUGGESTIONS THE FINAL SAY IS YOURS BUT TAKE WHAT I HAVE SAID INTO CONSIDERATION WHEN MAKING YOUR DECSION... WHATEVER YOU DECIDE I KNOW WILL BE THE BEST FOR BOTH OF YOU..... GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
2006-07-03 06:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by rawdawgsgo_hard2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend isn't your friend if she has to resort to volience to solve things, your relationship or your son's is how he father feels about him.. You can't make a person do what's right .. they are who they are,she has alot of built of rage and it's not youe responsibility to be co-depentdent for her. Sorry she has a child,that's relying on her to make the right decisions, but she is only teaching this child to be hateful and cruel to get what he wants ,as long as you let this go on. She should learn to except things the way they are and make life as pleasant as possible for her child, you only get one chance at it!Two wrongs don't make a right... as for her leaving i would insist that she make other arrangements for herself and son., her making you god-mother doesn't mean your her personal punching bag.. i know from personal experience there is always somewhere to go.. she's using your compassion and love for the child against you, that's not good for your son.. and his well being should always come frist.. your in my prayers friend sharon
2006-07-03 06:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by sharbear1100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you have to be a nice person to ask this question because if it were me she would be out my house like yesterday but it's not me and I guess you asked this question because you care about her even in the midst of your disagreement.lets make one thing clear hear,it is your house and if anyone gets the great privilege to stay at you home the main criteria should be respect.Respect for you,your child,your possessions,your personal business,your everything.JUST GENERAL RESPECT and it is clear that this friend of your has none of the above so you tell me what is she still doing in your home.
2006-07-03 06:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by RYAN G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any type of assault against another in a household environment , especially with children, is an absolute negative, and should not be tolerated. do something quickly, because this could get ugly and escalate. protecting the children is of the utmost importance. contacting an abuse hot line, agencies in your area, or the POLICE, if need be, are all options. you don't need to live like this, our homes should be our sanctuaries.
2006-07-03 06:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave. If she hits you, call the cops on her. Obviously she's crazy. It sucks to have to kick your friend and her kid out, but it's not YOUR problem that she doesn't have anywhere else to go. Now you probably see why nobody else will let her stay with them! You don't need her comlicating your life any more!
2006-07-03 06:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She not taking care of herself because you are taking care of her. I have similar situation with my brother, as long as we don't make them be responsible for themselves then they won't. It's easier for them to stay here with us than to be adult and take care of business. Trust me you just have to put your foot down and tell her to go, especially if she is causing physical conflict. though i haven't kicked my brother out yet either, i know how you feel. Give her a time frame to get her own place, beyond that it's out of your hands. If she gets mad and doesn't want to be your friend anymore, you wont be losing a good one anyway
2006-07-03 06:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Amy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then she isn't a friend. Tell her that she has 10 days to move out, at which time you change the locks and put her stuff out the door. You don't need to be scared in your own home.
2006-07-03 06:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have to realize if you start hitting eachother with kids in the house,you will bring your kids up in a violent house,and this is not good for the poor kids. make your friend understand that it is not about yourselfs anymore but about the kids,its enough that those poor kids can only see their fathers when it suits you and her,but having to bring them up around violence is not mentally healthy for them. dont worry about your friend,maybe she needs to grow up,but worry about the kids,because they are the ones who suffer the most. good luck!!!
2006-07-03 06:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's time to go. Give her a week or so to find another place. That simple. It's your house.
2006-07-03 06:10:51 · answer #11 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋