sorry for the poorly worded question, but if I and my same sex lover move into your neighborhood, or apartment complex, or I, a gay man, start working where you work, and put a picture of myself and another male, both wearing wedding rings, on my desk...(this will sound more like a challenge than I want, but) what are going to do about it?
2006-07-03 05:54:41 · 14 answers · asked by tkdeity 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
moose lover, what's a gay bob?
and given there were no rules, my question is, given that gay folks will set up house with other gay folks, and have pictures on their desks, what is there to do? you're given free reign here. what would you do?
and I assume you love moose as a meal? what's it taste like? I've had buffalo once, would it taste like that?
2006-07-03 06:29:56 · update #1
It'd be perfectly acceptable where I work.
Fortunately, I work for a corporation that has included sexual orientation in its non-discrimination policy and offers same-sex benefits, as well as having a 'diversity committee' that addresses diversity in the work place with all new employees.
On my team, aside from myself, there are two other Gay men and one Lesbian. Stacie has her wife's photo, along with other pics of their family, on her desk. All of us guys remain single, but I think one is getting close to setting up house with the guy he's been 'dating' for around a year and a half (ask him already! Sheesh!) ;)
It may not yet be a perfect world for us, but we've made remarkable advances within the last few years alone. All to the dismay of the Xtian far-right radical activists, I hasten to add.
There WILL be a day when it will be more accepted than not for us to become open about those we love.
What can we do to garner equal status among other citizens? I think two things stand out as being amont the most important:
1) Education and,
2) Awareness.
What people don't understand, they fear; what they fear they usually despise. Education is the key. Making others aware that they know, or have known at some time, someone who is GLBT.
Shedding the fear and coming out -- becoming visible -- may be the singular most important step a GLBT individual will contribute to winning the battle for equal status.
I would add one last thing:
We should be aware if we're taking younger GLBT individual's on *our* journey, or are we preparing them for theirs?
Regardless of the many small battles we've lost, a new and better world is dawning. The fact that we were engaged in ANY battle is all the proof we need!
2006-07-03 11:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by Specious λ Neurotica 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'll be quite honest in that I got lucky with the same situation. Last year I met Mr. Perfect, found a great little apartment where we now run the building, and everyone can easily find my desk at work because I have a picture of him prominently displayed on my desk. I have dealt with some snotty people when renting apartments prior to this one, and just went looking elsewhere.
So I'd be the type to invite ya'll over for dinner and drinks or just to hang out doing something fun, as long as we got along based on personality and the other intangibles.
2006-07-03 13:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mikey S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you came to work with me, you would not be the only gay working with me. I've already got a gay colleague. You'd be treated well or badly according to how good a person you are. I don't care if you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. That doesn't say anything about you as a worker.
And the same goes if you were my neighbour. I don't judge people for that.
2006-07-03 14:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I'd show you pictures of me and my lover (we're both guys) then I'd ask where you got your wedding rings and if they can be shipped to Russia, where my boyfriend lives and where I will soon be going, because without immigration rights, he can't come to the USA by saying that he's my fiancee.
2006-07-03 13:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by chipchinka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably be too shy to bring the subject up to you at work if I noticed, but I'd take notice and probably be cheering for you in my head, as it is a step in the right direction for the gay community.
2006-07-03 18:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by palebeachbum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are looking for someone to challenge you. Most of my hetero friends and co-workers don't really care, and I find that in the general public as well.
Good luck either way!
2006-07-03 16:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could I say,You would get me for slander and hate crimes. You gay bobs have more rights than straight people.And people in america want to know why we have war,murderers,pedophiles,and plain hatred? Look at the shame the people bring.
2006-07-03 13:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by Moose 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I don't think that people really care. I just get annoyed by the "flaming" homo. You know, the one that has to point out to everybody, that he is the ultimate gay guy.... then gets pissed when people don't "accept" him. I don't care what you do in your personal life and especially not in your bedroom..... if I don't ask then don't tell me. If I do ask, then we're obviously moving towards a friendship..... and it won't matter.
2006-07-03 13:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by BrownTown 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well as your neighbor or co-worker I would find it comforting knowing that I have someone in my life that is not along. What's not unacceptable is people forcing their views upon others.
2006-07-03 16:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd congradulate you on living in a country that accepts people for whom they are. And congrats on the happy occasion!
2006-07-03 13:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋