Ok I've been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months now. Well when we first started dating my parents seemed like they were ok with it. Not exactly happy but ok with it. You see my boyfriend is 22 and I'm 17. (Please don't ridicule us, we don't need it.) Well now days my mom is making up excuses of why I can't go and spend time with him. And they're stupid excuses. You see I only get to see my boyfriend two days a week because of our schedules. How can I explain to my mom that I really just want to be with him? She has no real reason to keep me away. I'm a good kid, I've NEVER been in trouble at home or otherwise. I'm not having sex, which she knows. I don't drink or do drugs. Why won't she let me spend time with him, when she knows I'm much happier since we started going out? I tried talking with her but it only makes her angry and she says mean things to me. My boyfriend has told her how much I mean to him and how it's ok to have family time.
2006-07-03
05:50:14
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actually I'm not going to have sex. Not now. I'm aware that I'm too young for sex. And he's not preassuring me into sex either he's waiting like I am.
As far as his charecter for having a younger girlfriend . . .age doesn't matter. What matters is that he's treats me good. The age isn't an issue for my mom. Those where her words exactly "as long as he treats me good"
2006-07-03
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start talkin to her and asking her about the excuses i'm 19 and my b/f is 35 and i'm happy, and last year i dated a guy who was 26 i've always liked older men and nothin is goin to change that, but sit down and have a talk with ur mom.and if it is b/c ur her baby tell her that u understand that and she's not goin to lose u. and explain to her how u feel about her making excuses everytime u wanna go out with ur b/f. ur a legal age she can't call the cops or anythin b/c she don't want u seein him b/c ur almost 18 and then she can't do anythin at all right now it sounds to me like u still live at home which she can keep u from seein him but she can't keep u two from bein b/f and g/f.
2006-07-04 15:41:39
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answered by mochachinalatte18 2
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Sounds to me like she's just mostly worried that he may change you or convince you to be sexual with him. 5 years isn't that big of a deal. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 25. My parents are 12 years apart.. age isn't anything. So long as you care about eachother then that's all that matters. If your parents can't understand that, they're only driving you away more. Making you more upset and chances are something bad will only come out of this. They need to loosen the leash on you a little and allow you to make your own decisions and choices.
Good luck hun.
2006-07-03 12:56:28
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answered by bnahsum 1
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When I was 17 ( am now 27) I started dating a guy who was 25. My parents did not like it but I turned 18 soon and they said we cant stop you! It was hard-- He could go to clubs and bars and I was going to prom--But We have been together for 10 years, married for 2 and have 2 beautiful Children. I was patient and took things VERY slow--I made sure it did not interfere with my school or sports and even collage. If he is willing to work with you I say go for it , if not cut your losses. It will be a bumpy ride and you might have to remind him of your age more then once but now that I am 27 and he is 35 I love to joke about the old man I am with!
2006-07-03 13:10:10
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answered by beanc22 2
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i know you would not beleive this but the maturity levels between 22 and 17 are very differnt. In addition I would have to question his level of maturity to find a 17 year old a suitable girlfriend. when you are 22 you will "get" what I mean by this. alot happens to a person in those few short years. just be careful if you are insisting in staying in this relationship and if you do decide to have sex, do not let it be something he pressures you to do and for god's sake... use a condom... every time. keep in mind that if you do consumate your relationship your parents can easily have him arrested for rape.
good luck
2006-07-03 12:57:04
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answered by zeechou 3
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depends on what kind of a guy he is.........normally, you would like to date guys your same age, but then again, some guys your age dont act like it........so you go with the older, more mature one......gotta be carefull dou.....i speak from experience....older guys look for younger girls because they are "fresh meat" or better sex in other words........so be very careful when picking your b/f......make your he respects your decisions and give you your space......if he start pushing the issue about sex and you tell him to stop, but keeps going, then you know all he wants is sex but not you...keep your eyes open.....
2006-07-03 14:34:52
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answered by Anonymous
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Your mom always knows right....When I was younger, I had some boyfriends that my mom didn't approve of. As I look back now (I'm almost 23), I think, what was I thinking when I was dating them....
2006-07-03 13:00:28
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answered by sundragonjess 5
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well, being a mom...i 'd have to say that even though your mom knows you're a smart girl and all, you've got to be pretty hot for a 22 yr old man to "like' you...get it...and men only want that one thing. and you've got to be pretty niave to think that he's "waiting" for you to be ready...he's probably already screwed a handful of girls just like you...
your mom is just trying to look out for your best interests...just love her for it and when you turn 18 you can do as you please...
2006-07-03 13:34:26
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answered by alfjr24 6
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She may be having trouble realizing your not her baby girl anymore and your a young woman. try finding out why she is so against you spending time with him, and try to go from there.
2006-07-03 12:56:39
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answered by Katie 4
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Well, just cut it off until youre 18 and make ur mom happy. then your a legal adult and you can date whoever you feel like. If she says you cant, tell her to go f*** herself. Thats what i would do.
2006-07-03 14:09:23
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answered by Veski 2
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How the hell are we supposed to help you?
EDIT: Oh yeah, and definitely try to find someone closer to your age. Unless you're both too desperate and will take whatever you can get.
2006-07-03 12:53:36
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answered by Pokerized 2
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