I'm a 28 year old Catholic woman who is fed up of no-hopers and men that can't deal with commitment - it feels like meeting someone who believes in marriage is getting harder and harder.
2006-07-03 05:42:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, yea, it is. When you find out this answer, would you mind sharing... :-)
2006-07-03 05:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, just don't seem like you are "needy" or in search of a husband, that terrifies men! Try your chuch, there are a lot of catholic dating organizations. Committment comes when two people are at the same place at the same time. Typically men take longer to get there then women. A relationship can grow but you have to be willing to see what is happening before making assumptions on him being the future husband, give a man time to maybe even decide for himself if you are right for him. Being 28, you are young still. I didn't marry until I was 34 and though it ended in divorce I was so glad I waited, I was a lot more ready for marriage then he was, obviously. Just date to get to know different men, personalities and open yourself up to new experiences first. It is very true that sometimes when you quit looking you will find what you are looking for!
2006-07-03 05:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is getting harder and harder. The best way to meet a man that is right for you is to do the things that are important to you and then pay attention to the men that are there. Don't try to go to some place designed for meeting people. This puts people in the position of acting fake. Just watch the men doing what they normally do and when God has the one he picked for you there you will know it.
2006-07-03 05:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your same shoes!! You need to focus on building a life that YOU want! Get involved in things that matter to you... volunteer work, music lessons, dance classes, co-ed sports teams... go out there and have fun. By building up your own hobbies and activities, it puts you out where you can meet men who have similar hobbies and activities. Do your best to be social... say YES to invitations to parties and gatherings with friends. And LISTEN to your gut - when the red flags start flying, cut loose and find the next one.
They are out there!! I met mine at 30.. never thought I'd still be single at 30, but was married at 31 and am SOOO happy now! He was worth the wait and all the bad dates for years before him!
2006-07-03 05:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep livin'. But stop livin' so highly pressurized!!!
Maybe your Catholic upbringing has you wound too tightly. Men don't like to be cornered and pounced on and tied down and married against their will. And they don't like to get into a relationship knowing that is HAS to end in marraige either. So you're setting up for disappointment because you can't MAKE somebody marry you. Why would you want to anyway? You do want someone that WANTS to be in the marraige, don't you? So loosen up and try dating for fun. Guys smell desperation and run like the wind. And when they KNOW they MUST MARRY YOU it triggers their " STAY SINGLE" response. And this is why they run. They're thinking, "IT'S A TRAP.....RUN.....RUN......FASTER!!!
2006-07-03 05:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by cami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking. Seriously, you stop looking and he will appear when you least expect it.
I reckon it works, cos if you decide not to look for a bit and enjoy being single, then you can focus on making sure you are really happy in yourself, and make sure the rest of your life is sorted out. This makes you appear confident and more attractive to guys. If this doesnt work, then clubs, societies, nightclasses etc.
Good luck.
2006-07-03 05:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by Helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look so hard... A guy has to love you before marriage - otherwise you'll pick someone who wants to get married - but not necessarily love you enough... Don't push it - most guys want to get married - you just have to make it easy for them
2006-07-03 14:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by want_to_explore_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun...your time will come..there are many eligible and lovely men out there...it just takes a lot of patience to route them out! Don't give up and stay true to your dream...and he will surely come along! I wish you every happiness!
2006-07-03 22:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by amelia_madeline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage today is a joke. Don't expect to get married and it actually last. It will end in divorce...that is if you ever get married.
2006-07-03 05:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean i have this probelm and so does this lady at my church . Search online for Catholic Dating Sites. hope that helps
2006-07-03 05:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by Salty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋