We are in our early twenties. Our sex drives should be running like crazy, but they're not. How do we get the spark back?
2006-07-03 05:41:32 · 5 answers · asked by pulchritudinous 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is normal in a long term relationship like this. Part of the issue is usually that you are trying to get back what you had when you first met. The truth is that you can't, that is a rush that only exists when you first meet someone and everything is new. You need to realize that a long term relationship is a bit different. A little less passionate and more supportive. The other part of the problem is that usually after a period of time like this you start to take each other, your relationship, and life in general for granted. You get into a very routine way of dealing with your life in order to get through it. The key to dealing with this is to get back to basics with your relationship. Start holding hands, kissing, hugging, flirting, teasing, etc...like you once did. Make time to just be together and explore life and share your lives. Do stuff occasionally that doesn't fall into your normal pattern. Even consider taking a trip together to a place that neither of you has ever been. Nothing connects two people like sharing a new adventure together.
2006-07-03 05:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Answer the door when he gets home w/ a see through babydoll outfit... (lingerie) with the table set w/ candles, a meal that consist of things you didn't have to slave over to prepare. Clean your room, spray some scent,, put on new satin sheets, or dye a pair that you have so they look new or different,, chill wine w/ glasses along w/ fruit and pound cake to dip into chocolate. You may even choose to have dinner in bed that consist of easy finger type food such as chicken nuggets from chick fil a...remember something lite..
Have the radio on: you could even change the room around,,anything that is different. change the lt. bulbs in the room to blue etc...
You can go to the dollar store and buy a lot of these things..You can even purchase some massaging oil here.
good luck,, and you should be acting like newlyweds still''' maybe your jobs have something to do w/ it,,and you really need to open up and get out of the rut..now!
2006-07-03 08:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Paige 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exercise if you aren't already doing so. You will both feel more confident and sexy. Get some fun books *wink*, not the nasty ones, the educational ones, and spice things up.
Dress up sexy and roll play. You can bring the spark back... but you both need to be on board!
2006-07-03 05:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a date to meet him at a favorite resteraunt. Show up wearing a very revealing outfit and no underwear. By the time the evening is over I am sure he will be sweating from desire!!!
2006-07-03 06:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try roleplay act like you care a number of things come to mind
2006-07-03 05:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋