My husband up and left me after 5 weeks of marriage because his mom told him that if he reamined with me that she never wants to see him again what do I do?
2006-07-03 05:38:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This all happened because my cousin was asking me about what type of life I think is the best life and I replied "girl I think the best life to live is a single life because you never have anything to worry about you can pick and choose who you want to date, you can go when you want you can come when you want, but marriage overall is the most difficult because its not just about what you want and how you want to live anymore" My husband was supposadly sleeping and not knowing he was listening to the whole convo he took it personal for god knows what reason packed his **** and left within a minute no lie. Then that's when mother inlaw came into play saying that she doesnt care about what the situation is, she would never talk to him again if he retured home to me. And that he would have to choose between me and her he called me stating that he chooses his mom. Isnt that ***** up?
2006-07-03 06:25:03 · update #1
forget him
2006-07-03 05:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Divorce the guy and find one who's grown up.
The essence of being an adult is accepting the responsibility for making your own life choices and the consequences that flow from them. No adult, no man, would allow someone else to make such a choice for him. By definition, this is a childish act. For it to come from his mother should clearly show you just how deep this immaturity runs in him.
Did you notice that she waited until after the marriage to issue the ultimatum? She was very sure of her control over him, and she was right. In case you were wondering, her timing was deliberate. It was intended specifically to hurt you and prove her continued ownership of him.
By the way, he chose you as a surrogate mother image, not as a wife and lover. When faced with a choice between his new surrogate and the real thing, he chose the real thing. You're worth more than that.
2006-07-03 05:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may sound cold but you should be happy that this happened early on in your marriage and not years down the road. This isn't your in-laws fault, it is your husbands. When a man chooses to marry a woman he is choosing to put her first in his life above all others. Seems to me you man couldn't do this and doesn't deserve you. File for divorce on the grounds of abandonment and take everything you can get from him.
2006-07-03 05:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this....
Why? What happened?
I am shocked to hear that your husband left you after 5 weeks of marriage. How long you knew each other before you got married? I am sure that both of you knew about this in-law problem long ago???
My suggestion:
Talk to your husband... try to resolve differences. But if he insist that he wants to listen to his mom, i guessed you can't do much. It simply means that his love for his mom is greater than you. Then, I will advise to leave him and move on...
You stay well...
2006-07-03 05:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to him because my husbands family didnt like me either and disowned him but they came around after a while. He needs to make a medium place between you and her. He needs to tell her firmly that she isn't ruling his life and marriage. How did he keep you when dating? If he can't stand up to his overbearing mother than maybe he should leave. He'll never find anyone that will deal with it.
2006-07-03 05:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by mcalano77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get an annulment before it's too late not to be counted as a marriage. It's not going to change and he's not in love with you for that too be so easy.
2006-07-03 05:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a mother boy. don't take him back, because he would always side with her. anything you would say about her, would cause trouble. when you married you become one flesh, a man leaves his parents and you become one flesh. but if he is a mommy's boy, forget it. mommy never does wrong. if he does come back, she would make your life awful. causing trouble all the time, and he would side with his mommy. I was married 35 years to a wonderful man, who we only knew four months then married. until he died two years ago and we where in love with each other
2006-07-03 05:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the mother and son both sound suspect. You are better off without them. Who needs a mama's boy and a domineering mother-in-law?
2006-07-03 05:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he'd stay with you. It's time for him to grow up and stop being a mamma's boy. If he can't do that than go ahead save yourself the heart break and move on.
2006-07-03 05:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is fuked up but u need to make ur hubby realize that u give him the pussy not ur MIL and he needs to pick, trust me girl if he piks his mom over u he really isnt worth u crying over b/c a real man doesnt betray his wife for his mom
2006-07-03 06:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God Riddance. He's a wimpy mama's boy - let her have him. Life with him will always include her. Try to get over him and move on.
2006-07-03 05:51:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋