i am 14 n recently my mom just married a man that i dislike. The man has serious mental issues, hes so slow. i begged ma mom not to marry him because i dont think he is good enough for her. Belive me i've tried over n over to except him but he gets on my last nerve. He once ask me when am i gonna call him dad n i told him "as long as i have ma real daddy i aint gonna call u anything more then floyd". I cant take bein around him any more because all he want is to be my dad n i dont kno wat to do.
now any thing i do any where i go he watches me as if he want to rape me or something n i am scared. My mom wont listen to me n personally i think he is changing her, she is becoming more impatient n she is always on his side. i swear sometime i want to kill the man!!!
~~PLEASE HELP ME~~
2006-07-03 05:38:48 · 28 answers · asked by LaLo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't kill em honey...just spend a lot of time with your friends and kill em with kindness...remember...sometimes the best defense is an offence! In a couple of years you can move out anyway baby girl so just chillax and be patient...it'll be the past before you know it.
2006-07-03 05:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Noelani 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
First piece of advice, never ever lie.The reason i say that is if this dude is really a creep and you have to tell on him or crack his skull for trying you physically; if you are a lier they wont believe you. Then take a minute and think-is this dude a creep because he is or because he isn't my dad.Like if he wasn't your mom's new dude would you like him.If he really makes you scared you have to tell her, look he hasnt done anything to me but I am only fourteen and I am really scared of this guy.Honestly the whole calling him dad thing is kind of weird.Thats not something you ask for.(I'm an adult so i know) See what she says and if you ever get to the point that you cant take it you might want to talk to your mom and dad together.Maybe even about moving in with your dad.And dude get good grades in school cuz you are going to want to go to college and get away from home if you cant leave before that.Also save this question and responses you get.Heck, show it to your mom.Maybe she's blind right now to the danger.
2006-07-03 06:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is a threat of danger you need to get out of the house. go move in with your dad and tell an athority that you are scared of this man. do not embelish the truth or lie about anything because if an investagation starts and they find out you will be held responsible for the lie. just say it like it is. if you can't live with your dad, try to find some other relitive you can live with.
this might mean that you will have to grow up a lilttle, washing dishes, doing laundry, doing better in school, basicly being a little more responsible, but that's good for you. just get away from this man!
2006-07-03 05:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing...best thing u can do is try to stay with ur friends and come home only when u have to. It's a VERY hard situation to deal with...and please don't kill him! He isn't worth u going to prison for the rest of ur life. Also, if u and ur real dad have a good relationship...talk to him about it and see what his advice is. If ur step-dad ever tries to touch u sexually, call the police....don't let him or ur mom scare u. I hope everything works out for the best. I really wish I could help u more!
2006-07-03 05:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ruff!!! I have a step-dad that I think is the biggest @$$ in the universe. However It's not my decision on who my mom chooses to hook up with. My step-dad pays all my moms bills and stuff so I guess it's cool that he wants to take care of her, even if I think it's not worth it for the way he controls her. But that's her choice.
Your mom loves this guy for some reason. Ask her what she sees in him. Maybe, you can see it like that, you know. I'm sure you love your mom, so try and get along with the guy even if it's just to see her happy. And if it's too much see if you can live with your dad for a while.
2006-07-03 05:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by miss_nursie_nurse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think logically right now (slow your emotions down). You have a living father, and you are correct : Floyd is NOT your father. The number 1 issue you need to address right now is protecting yourself. The best way to do that is to write a note that says , "TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN : I FEEL UNSAFE WITH FLOYD. HE CREEPS ME OUT BY THE WAY HE LOOKS AT ME AND I AM AFRAID. I NEED YOUR HELP IN THIS SITUATION."
Give a copy of that letter to Floyd, your mom, you r biological dad, your grandparents, and all of your friends. It is known as "putting your cards down on the table". It is the best, most honest, safest way to protect yourself, and if your mom and Floyd are interested in you at all, they will act like responsible adults and enter into open communications with you. You are SMART. If they start acting mean about your letter, you know it is time to get out of the situation. Until then, keep a diary. Document everything that is going on, and save (on your computer) this question and the replies you are going to get on YahooAnswers. Good Luck. Your mom is in a hard spot right now, but she loves you. She is just blind to this dude's problems.
2006-07-03 06:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do (besides learning how to spell) is take a deep breath and try to ignore him. I have a stepdad and a real dad, but my stepdad understands that he will never be called "daddy." If this new man in your mama's life is seriously scary...talk to the police and explain your fears. You cannot "make" them leave each other by acting like a little bee-atch, but you can sit them down and explain how you feel before they won't take you seriously anymore!
2006-07-03 05:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by BlondeBooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asks you to call him dad, then maybe the reason he watches you so closely is because he's admiring you, and appreciates you as a daughter (unless you're leaving out important details). Maybe he loves you and wants you accept him. From what you tell me, the only reason you dislike him is because he's "slow". My younger brother is mentally disabled, but it doesn't make me love/accept him any less.
2006-07-03 05:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered if he is right? I grew up with a single mom and she met a guy who tried to step in and discipline us. I hated it with a passion but now that I am older, I appreciate the things he taught me. Believe it or not, you may too someday. Try to think about what you would do if you were in his shoes and someone treated you the way you treat him.
2006-07-03 05:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really looking at you like that or has your dislike of him and his new place in your family that you're projecting your negative feelings about him ON him? that being said, if he really is ogling you, tell a trusted teacher or church official..if your Mom is getting impatient with you it could be because she thinks you are not giving him a chance. you didn't say how long your mom dated him before they married.
2006-07-03 05:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm concerned that he makes you uncomfortable by staring at you. I always trust gut feeling.
Tell your Mother about the staring and if you do not get her corporation tell another adult that you trust. An aunt or uncle, the neighbors or your school counselor. You MUST TELL an adult. Never be alone with him, lock your bedroom door at night.
Do not be afraid to yell out loud if he tries to touch you.
Be careful and God bless.
2006-07-03 05:46:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋