hi to all! Im in touch with this attractive guy who finds me attractive, basically we met once just recently for a short time and now getting to know each other for friendship for the last couple of weeks.
I started to realise that i now have strong feelings for him,and i really want to start dating him,however he is so busy he hardly calls me this just makes it so frustrating for me as i hate to go behind ppl and call them. what do i do???
being a typical guy he has complimented me several times like he thinks im amazing looking,however guys are such liars they only tell you what you want to hear.
its still early days im so afraid of messing things up!
My second QUESTION IS: guys (player or no player) would you lead girls on even if you dont want to be with them,if so why???
thank you for your time!
2006-07-03 05:19:34 · 16 answers · asked by Nasty Gurl From Around The World 2 in Sports ➔ Basketball
Allright, turn off your hormones for a minute...
2 weeks is just about long enough to get "infactuated" your "strong feelings" are your hormones telling you to propagate your species.
He's playing it cool and you're not. Decide if you want to take the lead or let him control things. Too "busy" to get to know someone "amazing looking" doesn't add up. Quit spinning your head backwards and keep looking. Or ask him out and blow him off if he plays hard to get.
Of course a guy would "lead you on" to keep you on the back burner for a "back-up" or a booty-call situation.
Take the lead...
2006-07-03 05:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by R J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you say you are attracted to this guy, but then you go on to say "guys are liars." Doesn't this sound like a stereotype to you? And if you really believe that, why would you want to date any of us since we are all going to (according to you) lie to you?
If you know he finds you attractive and you find him attractive, go ahead and ask him out, assuming that they lying comment above isn't an indication that you have other issues with men in general. In this day and age, I don't think most guys are threatened by a woman asking them out. Back when I was single, I would have loved this because I was very shy back then.
As for the leading on thing, some guys do just want to be friends, but the only way you will find out here is if you ask him. Then you will know where you stand with him.
2006-07-03 05:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the guy let him know. Life is too short to play the "what if" game. The only way you are going to know is if you say something. And if he likes you back then good, and if he doesn't then you know you didn't waste your time wondering.
Personally, i wouldn't lead a girl on if i didn't want to be with her, because i wouldn't want to hurt any feelings. And if she did end up liking me, it would be too akward trying to explain that there were no real feelings in my flirting. So no I wouldn't lead a girl on.
2006-07-03 06:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he calls, thats when you tell him how you feel about him because if you dont he wont no if you like him and he just might think of you has just a friend . You also need to no if he thinks the same about you or not . first if he ask you out to be your girlfriend and try to have sex or make out on the first day he is a player. if he is not player you still dont want to give it up so quick because he might think you're easy.
2006-07-03 05:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecka W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll its hard to tell his real intentions are. If you like him you will have to take some risk and explore things a little further, don't always think negatively about what he does. Its true men sometimes tell women what they want to hear so they can get into your pants, however we do the same thing to women we like.
Some men would lead you on if there is a prospect of sex and your not so bad looking.
2006-07-03 05:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by bzmag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Turn the other cheek and act like your too busy for him... but if that's how he was when you met him, don't expect him to change. All you really can do is try to join him in some of the things he does, and let him know how you feel.
2.Yeah b/c I was taught to always leave yourself another option, so instead of closing the door, I have a tendency to keep it cracked..
2006-07-03 07:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are different from one another like girls are different from one another. there are players and no players (simply put). there is a chance that he is telling you all this to get with you, but he might be telling you all that because he really means it.
i personaly enjoy it if a girl i like calls me out of the blue, a pleasant suprise. if he likes you and is being honest he will enjoy getting a call from you
but i think its best that you take a step back and take a deep breath before you do anything. doing anything while your feelings are all caught up can either feel amazing (if things work out) or bad (if things don't work out). so take your breath and be yourself. and if things don't work out, there are plenty of men for you to choose from.
2006-07-03 05:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by artist.returned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men who arent grown up inside of themselves lead chicks on for sexual reasons among other reasons. Depending on your age, It doesnt hurt to call someone but you have to let him know how you fel because he could have a girl somewhere else that he likes and if you dont let him know your felings then he may never know right?
2006-07-03 05:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by bmxcollections 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a parelel universe is made for every dicicion you make. just find the right path and you will be in the right universe. go for it he likes you and you like him do it trust me. i liked a girl once and now she has moved to America, i just let her slip from me, i was going to tell he how i feel bu i was such a wimp. Jolena Jepson was her name, and a name i will never forget. SO DONT LET HIM SLIP AWAY LIKE I DID WITH JOLENA.
2006-07-03 05:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
like you said guys say things that you want to hear, well why do u think that/. because girls are evil and don't freaking know what they want if gusy are honest then they are in trouble and if they lie wll then u know.
2006-07-03 05:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Ahmed S. Bhuiyan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋