I have my own appartment, a 5yr. old son and I help my mother take care of my neice. I've been married and divorced already and I'm moving towards my goal within my career rapidly. He's turning 33 this week and never been on his own. He said there was never a reason for him to leave. He said his goal was to be out by 19, 25, and so on. Now he's trying to be stable in his occupation and next he wants a car, then he'll move out. That seems like a long time because I believe he should have had it done already. He is soo sensitive and understanding and patient. On the other hand, I'm want things right away, but I'm willing to give it time, give him time to achieve some goals. We have been together(dating) for almost a year, will it last?
2006-07-03 05:15:17 · 13 answers · asked by Mo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's the youngest boy out of 5 kids. He has 2 elder brothers and 1 eldest sister. He has a younger sister (30 yrs old with 5 kids), who just recently moved out a yr. ago. His parents spoils all of them. He spends the night with me every now and again. Doesn't want to shack up(which is wonderfull!)
2006-07-03 06:04:34 · update #1
I agree with Lily. He seems like a decent guy who has lived an extremely sheltered life and has no aims on making it any more difficult. Clearly, however, you are JUST the opposite given the fact you had a son at age 20 (since hes five and your 25) and started on the road to independence VERY early. If you enjoy him and his company and as long as he is understanding I believe it will last. I just hope you become a bit more patient and that your boyfriend learns to pick up some more responisbilities.
2006-07-03 05:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has good intentions, but no discipline. I'm willing to bet he was an only child. Parents who give their child everything debilitate them later on in life...Self reliance is a very important skill to acquire and it seems he has yet to require it. At 33 I doubt he will acquire it. With that being said if you're looking for the relationship to progress i think the only way for it to happen is marriage. Which he may be scared of as well. It's a tough call on your part and it's all a matter of will power. If you have the fortitude to stick with it and make it work then do so..If not then move on.
2006-07-03 05:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by bmicale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. I would talk to him about your concerns. He is 33 years old living at home and doesn't have a car. That doesn't sound like the most responsible person to help you raise a 5 year old. There has to be a reason you stay with him. If he is really the one he will quit making excuses and start proving he wants to help provide for you and your son.
2006-07-03 05:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, no how! He is a little kid, no car, lives with mommy and daddy, He needs his mommy. I just turned 34, have been on my own for almost 14 years, and married for 12. I own a home, have two cars, motorcycles, and a life. Drop him, he is gonna do nothing but drag you down. What a loser! DO you pay when you go on a date too, or does he get money from mommy and daddy?
2006-07-03 05:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem more ambitious than he is .You have a strong goal and desire to meet it ...at 33 still living with his parents most would say he is content with his living situtation .If his goal was to be out of his house at 19 and he is now 33 ....how do you know his stabilizaTION WOULD BE Just like his other goals ?? they fall by the way .... living with his mom of course he is sensitive and patient ....would he consider living together for some time to see how he can manage without his parents
2006-07-03 05:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by HAPA CHIC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not pull out the rug from him yet. There is some credit to him being single all this time; he does'nt have a endless supply of bad relationship issues. And besides, if he has been waiting for the right one to come along, maybe you're the one!
2006-07-03 05:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by runner45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it can last. As long as you understand that you will never be able to depend on him, he will run at the first sign of trouble and he will expect you to wait on him hand and foot. If your ok with all that, you will have success, otherwise, your son may be more mature and level headed.
2006-07-03 05:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be leery about dating a guy who's never moved out of his parents home at that age! My fear is that he'd be entirely too dependent and lazy...possibly even a mama's boy. You already have one son. And you already know what I'm telling you, too.
Good luck with your desicion.
2006-07-03 05:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could last but do you think a man that hasnt been able to leave the nest will be a good husband and father?
2006-07-03 05:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be able to look at the situation realistically. It seems that the problem might be that your man doesnt want to grow up. If thats the problem, run as fast as you can, he might be your typical run of the mill 'SCARED OF COMMITING' guy.
2006-07-03 05:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋