Hi friends.... I was zero 2 years ago .financially as well as morally..... as my girl friend ditched me and robbed me off my money... I was 24 years old and she was 16 when I fell in love with her... she was committed and I was committed... she wanted to study away from our home town..... 3000 miles away.....It was planned that we will marry when she is 18..... She went for her admission with me and I paid my everything for her fee... her stay...her books etc..through my credit cards... borrowed from friends.... but when I asked her to marry.... she refused... she said she needs to make her career first... her mom interefered and said NO..my daughter does not want to marry you.... when I asked the girl....she said.. ask my mom.. mom said No... because you don't like my affair with my boss.....mom said to girl..choose me or this guy..so she decided her mom... my everything was gone...after some time .... i fell in love with my present wife..she doesn't believe..what to do..
2006-07-03 05:02:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHOA>. .I seriously felt like I just walk on a set from "days of our lives"
first off... any guy that falls in love with a girl with that much of an age difference.. will get the BRUNT of the situation.. number 2... if you are THAT old and she is THAT young.. why didn't her parents help her with all that stuff... I understand that families have problems. and they turn to those who they know they can help them.. but not rob them.. that's shitty...
and as for the rest..that seriously is like verbal CACA!! the mom is having an affair with her boss and her daughter can't marry you because of it... why would you want to be with someone who has a life like that.. no offense or anything but that just seems like too much trouble for someone you love or care for... and what is it that your wife doesn't believe.. where and when did she hear about all of this and why is she caring.. have you seen this EX that screwed the wrong way?
being OPEN and HONEST is the only way to go.. but you need to elaborate more on why your wife is doubting you...
2006-07-03 05:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by duhblondeone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all forget about that OTHER girl. Forget about her. Not another thought about her! Do you hear me? She is gone. That was a mistake you made in the past. She was no good and used you. You have ONE line in your question about your wife. The 2nd thing you need is to focus your affection, energy and priority on the woman you are married to. Tell her she is beautiful. Hug and kiss her. Ask her what she needs. Be there for her. Most woman are blown away by that. If she married you without believing that you loved her then she must know that your affection still belonged to another woman. Focus your energy on your wife. Do YOU believe you love her. Then convince her with sweet words and affection.
2006-07-03 12:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife doesn't believe that you're in love with her, you're obviously not being a very loving husband. Do something nice for your wife without being asked, Do the dishes, the laundry, make her a romantic dinner (or take her out). Tell her that you love her and you think about her all the time.
All you need to do is give a lot of yourself and make her know that you love her. If you do love her, you'll do the work required to build a great marriage. I can understand what she's feeling because I'm married- and I feel that my husband doesn't love me - or is in love with me anymore.
2006-07-03 12:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by halocraze86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Tough luck, eh? I would suggest doing the little things: opening doors for her, etc. Not only that, but try writing little sweet nothings on Post-it notes and sticking them in random places where she'll see them. You could even use poetry. Try http://www.utahholidayguide.com/valentines/nothings.htm . That's a good 'sweet nothings' site. Get her flowers. Everytime you see her, smile and compliment her. Talk with her. Don't beg or plead- talk with her. Tell her exactly how you feel about her- but don't demand a response. From the looks of things, you two have had a rocky relationship. Just be persistent. Don't stop giving her romantic notes or flowers- just slow it down a bit. Good luck with all that.
2006-07-03 12:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way I agree w/ Vegas up there! I mean the true question is why were you with a 16 year old? Another thing....... it's pretty bad a 16 year old conned you into paying for her education, and her room and board at a place where she probably will meet her future husband! Good luck next time!
2006-07-03 12:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, if you are with a new person and married to them, u should forget about the other lady and whatever happened in the past and only focus on your wife. if you are still thinking about this other lady then u werent ready to move on let alone get married. if u truely love your wife then focus all attention on her and let the past go. The future is what is important. To make her happy just give her respect and love and dont constantly bring up your ex's names, no girl wants to hear that crap all the time.
2006-07-03 12:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is right. You just spent 3/4 of this page talking about your ex-girlfriend but your wife only got an honorable mention. You should really think about moving on from your ex-girlfriend she lied to you, she cheated you out of your money and she is incapable of making decisions. You need to remember that you are not with her for specific reasons so move on.
2006-07-03 12:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by stillshyneing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what she doesn't believe. Forget about the little girl and move on with your wife. I wouldn't care to believe my husband was in love with a child before me either!
2006-07-03 12:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by hotrod luvin princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, your present wife doesn't believe what? I think best advice here would be-it's to give, but don't forget to take too. If you pay for her studies, ask her to do smth for you, don't let her abuse you. And speak! speak to your present wife about your future plans, so that it's not a surprise to find out she doesn't want you anymore.
2006-07-03 12:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by friday's child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are an easy person to get along with, and be taken advantage of as well. It's all about what you can be taken for from what you've said, so don't be so easy to please. Let the females in your life try to please and give to you some times. It's guys like you that females like me won't ever run into.... :-) Believe me, I'd love too!
2006-07-03 12:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋