I cheated on my husband 5 years ago. It was my one and only time, he forgave me and love me more than ever. I have come to realize that I haven't forgiven myself. How do I forgive myself for this terrible thing. I really don't feel worthy of his love.
2006-07-03 04:53:02 · 17 answers · asked by sassy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to figure out why you did it. It was only a one time thing so that is good. I cheated once to and was forgiven. I wasn't happy in my marriage that is why I did it, even though he is a wonderful person. I divorced him.
2006-07-03 04:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by kim l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure. I don't think that I could forgive my wife if I found out. Maybe by loving your husband the way you do now is kind of forgiving yourself, feeling bad about it may be too. I think the only way to forgive yourself is to make sure it won't happen again. You are very lucky to have a husband that forgave you. I really don't think I could. Any way, I hope it never happens to me and I hope this helps you. From the sound of things, you may have already forgave yourself.
2006-07-03 05:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Repent, and ask God for forgiveness. Your husband forgave you, which sometimes don't happen. You've been given a second chance. Accept that. Do whatever is necessary to show your husband that you won't do it again, and things will feel better for you. If your husband didn't feel that you were worthy, then you wouldn't be married to him.
We are all human; we all make mistakes; but what we are not is superior to each other. So don't put yourself down any longer.
2006-07-03 05:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey we all make mistakes, don't be so hard on yourself. How many good things have you done for him since 5 years ago? I'm sure alot, no you cannot change the fact that it happened, but you don't have to let it happen anymore. If he forgives you then you should forgive yourself. Life is too short to worry about something the only other person it effected has forgiven you for.
2006-07-03 05:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You forgive yourself in the same way that you forgive others. You look at your life and the actions you've taken since then and if the life you now lead and the actions in your life prove to you that you have changed then you have earned your forgiveness from yourself. If you continue to beat yourself up for the past then that past action is still controlling your life and stopping you from feeling and giving all the love you are capable of. There for by not forgiving yourself you are actually hurting your husband who is still not receiving your full love simply because of your own guilt.
2006-07-03 05:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely won't be able to forget it, and very blessed to have a husband who doesn't bring it up constantly during your marriage. If he's truly taking things are they were, then do all you can to continue making him happy in every way possible. Keep an open communication regarding any issues that may try and creep into causing problems, and take care of them before they are too serious. Fulfill your other vows to the utmost, and be glad that you've gotten by the only broken vow that is excepted in the Bible for a divorce.
2006-07-03 05:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend, forgiving yourself is just as important as having your husband forgiveness. Your past will always be there and nothing will change that. If you truly feel sorry for what you've done, then you may be needing god's forgivness. Once you have that, you can move on to forgive yourself.
2006-07-03 05:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by TracieLacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS HOW YOU FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR CHEATING ON YOUR HUSBAND: 9 TIMES OUT OF 10, HE PROBABLY ALL READY HAS CHEATED ON YOU, TWICE! GIRLFRIEND., "ALL MEN CHEAT" THEY CAN'T HELP IT. THEY NEVER GET ENOUGH AND THEY ARE ALWAYS TEMPTED. NOT BECAUSE THEY ARE "DOGS", BECAUSE OF THE MALE HORMONE THEY ARE PLAGUED WITH. IT DRIVES THEM CRAZY. WE HAVE TO FEEL SORRY FOR THEM. CAN YOU IMAGINE BEING DRIVEN 24 HOURS A DAY, BY A HORMONE THAT WANTS SEX? I WOULD BE IN JAIL. SOMETIMES WOMEN HAVE EXTRA OF THIS HORMONE, AND THEN WE ACT JUST LIKE THEM. "WILD" FORGIVE YOURSELF, RIGHT NOW!! HE ALREADY FORGAVE YOU LONG AGO, MAINLY BECAUSE, YOU HAVE NOT CAUGHT HIM YET. HE PROBABLY SAID, "WHEW" THAT WAS CLOSE. AHH, HONEY, IT'S OK. WHILE THINKING DID HE COVER ALL HIS TRACKS! GIRLFRIEND, WOMEN HAVE GOT TO GET TU FF LIKE MEN, AND NOT LET EMOTIONS RUN US. HE FORGAVE YOU ON THE SPOT, AND NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT IT AGAIN MAINLY BECAUSE, HE IS TRYING TO KEEP YOU FROM CATCHING HIM!
2006-07-03 08:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You're just paying the price for cheating and you will never forgive yourself because if you did then that would be like saying what you did was OK.
2006-07-03 05:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by mr2demon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say you are right you don't deserve such a good man, remember you can forgive yourself but you can never forget what you did to your good husband
2006-07-03 05:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋