The woman is married with two kids and she's working a temporary job but, her husband is working full time making $90,000 a year. Every time she does something that he doesn't like, he abuses her either mentally, or physically. I tell her that even though he threatens to not pay her child support and he threatens to not give her any spousal support that she should leave because no money is better that being abused. Besides, she can always fight him for that right? So, if you were in that situation, what would you do?
2006-07-03 04:49:36 · 16 answers · asked by kittydiva_2017 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs to sit down with a domestic violence counsellor and talk about what she can do and where to find help. They will also give her the counselling she needs to heal from this abuse. There are safe houses for victims of domestic violence...and even though she may not be getting beat up by him..it's still domestic violence. Emotional combat is unacceptable...and takes many casualties. She must also think of the best environment for her children, and what she has isn't it, IMHO.
2006-07-03 07:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first time he's abusive, shame on him. every time after that its shame on her for putting up with it.
thats not something to mess around with from anyone. let alone your spouse.
He's wrong, 100% wrong, she's entitled not only to child support, but to some sort of alimony should she take him to court over it. The only reason that he would tell her otherwise is to try to control her.
She needs to have it documented that her husband is beating her. Go to the police, call the police something. When she ends up in court over a divorce it will be proof that he owes her for her life with him.
every day she sits there going through this is one more day her kids get a lesson in how to abuse and be abused.
Get a lawyer and get the hell out.
2006-07-03 04:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE !!!! She is no punching bag, she did not come with boxing gloves. If she wants to be better off, no matter how much he brings in. Then she needs to get her and the kids out. If he doing that to her, who knows when he turn onto the kids.
Then she needs to have proof of him doing that. Have her take picture of the brusies. Press charges against his low life butt. Take his butt to court and suck every nickel, dime, and penny from him.
Don't forget to try , on getting alimony from him too.
Go to a women shelter. Have an EPO out against him.
2006-07-03 04:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make copies of his bank statements, and his driver license.
Buy some traveler checks to have some safe cash with you.
Seek a legal counselor.
He will pay for child support under probation.
This is not your friend's problem, it is yours, right? In that case you need more than legal help.
2006-07-03 06:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by Saturno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 05:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by behymer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get out. Money is money, and her life is her life. It's also not fair to the kids, seeing their father beat up their mother. The mother should go to a family member from her side about it and get help. Kids growing up in that enviroment are going to affect them for the rest of their life in a negative way.
2006-07-03 05:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seek some counseling for you both if that did not work I would have to get out of the marriage. Your kids need to come first and if they have to see you and him fight and yell alot it may affect them emotionally. I hope this helps.
2006-07-03 05:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by rndyfindley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to get out before you get hurt.File papers at the police dept. and let the state go after the child support and anything else she has coming.
2006-07-03 06:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by Randy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get you important papers(i.d. birth certs passports ext) and run to the local battered woman shelter they are great will help you get a place and Court orders and everything else you need.
2006-07-03 04:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave that is no kind of a home for kids to be raise in and my kids always come frist
2006-07-03 05:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋