it and he said it was none of my business. i dont want to know what they talk about, all i wantd to know was why didn't he tell me he spoke to her on that level
2006-07-03 04:41:45 · 15 answers · asked by Babe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hon, I know how it can be sometimes. Sometimes there are X's who never give up, but if you boyfriend really cares for you he should try to avoid his X. Besides, you are his new g/f and he has no business with his X. If he really cares for you, he should xplain to his X that you don't approve talking to him and that he thinks it's the best thing to do - to stop communicating with him.
Bes of luck! If you don't trust him, things will never work out. It's hard and he should work hard so that you can gain his trust. Everything is up to him - if he really cares.
2006-07-03 04:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by adriana 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have the right to know why he spends so much time with an x-girlfriend, but he may not be ready to talk to you about it. I don't know how long you have been dating, but he may not yet feel that he can trust you enough with the details of his past. Men are detail and specific oriented. Men generally do not want to talk about their feelings or the events in their lives while women do. When you confronted your boyfriend, his first reaction was to get defensive. You activated his "internal security system" which protects him from unwanted intrusion by pushing the "intruder" away. Talk to him only when he is in a good mood. Start by asking him if you can ask a question of him. Then ask him to not interrupt you until you are done asking the question and explaining why you are curious. he will most likely tell you if you use this approach.
Hope this helps you!
2006-07-03 11:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by chemical_kenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a potential problem there. They still share an emotional attachment that could threaten your relationship. Not sure who ended thier relationship, but it appears neither really wants it to end. You may be caught in a bad spot here, especially when he gets mad and says it is none of your business. When your partner is involved with another, you have a right to know.
2006-07-03 11:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Why be stupid? Just get out of it. If these 2 are confiding in eachother their relationship is not over.
The only way for your relationship to survive is if you make him sever all ties to his ex. Having a friendly relationship with an ex is good, but, when they rely on each other for confort and support this is extrely bad new fpr their current relationships
2006-07-03 11:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by fbsmith3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him you're so right, it's not any of my business. Just don't get up tight when I'm relating to my ex on that level, even though you may not do this. His actions from this point will let you see the truth on their so call confiding on that level. If he says, fine then don't worry. If he says anything about your NOT talking to your ex or try to argue about this, then be cautious about them.
2006-07-03 11:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one because I'm a firm believer if you were in a relationship with someone and you did care about them at one time you still care for them. even if it is no longer at that good relationship level you once had. if your bf is a good guy he cares about her well being. now you have to ask yourself, do you trust him? if you trust him, then i wouldn't worry about it to much. just talk to him and say honey i trust you but when you don't tell me you are doing something like this it makes me start to think twice. if he is a good guy he should apologize and will let you know he cares about you. if he is doing more then talking with her it will come out rather soon if you talk to him. don't yell or go ballistic, just be calm and talk to him bf-gf.
2006-07-03 11:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by danielle s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got divorced. My ex and I get along now better than we ever did. I can talk to him about anything or go to him for anything. He should be able to give you a reasonable explanation instead of telling you it is none of your business. I had to set my boyfriend straight.
2006-07-03 11:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by kim l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "I know it isn't any of my business, but since you're my boyfriend it would've been nice to know you still speak with her on certain levels. I don't want someone coming to me and telling me they saw you too chatting and giving me ideas" if he still acts like an *** tell him so. If he's willing to do a breakup with you than something's going on there. Especially if he offers it first.
2006-07-03 11:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people err on the side of caution. He may have feared that you would react negatively, so didn't bring it up. Tell him why it annoys you and that you hope in the future he'll feel comfortable enough to be more open with you.
2006-07-03 11:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are the same. wad personal is it? Is it very impt? If he didn't tell you how do you know?
Do you trust your guy?
You n Him should sit down and have a slow talk, don be agressive..
2006-07-03 11:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by elmo_gerl45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋