Why do you think a woman stays in an abusive situation instead of leaving?

Answer 1

I think there are a lot of reason on why they stay. I have a really close friend and she's been with her bf for a long time and despite the years that have passed things have only gotten worst. I think deep down she's hoping that one day he will change and realize how much she cares for him because she's put up with so much of his crap. I think it would kill her to see him with another girl. To know that, that was once her place and if he treats the new gf better it will eat her away thinking what did i do wrong? Convenience i think is another reason, knowing that it's been so long that she doesn't know anything but him. Low self-esteem, he's put her down so many times that he's taken every bit of hope, and disgraced her so much that she no longer values herself. I guess no matter what we say we just have to pray that one day they will see what's best for them hopefully before it's too late!

Answer 2

Most abusive relationships grow progressivelly worse over time.

Meaning in the beginning it wasnt bad, or not really bad, the woman believes that somehow it will get better again.

And over time, she has been alienated from all family and friends. Now she feels utterly alone in the world, and safehouses have limits on time that can be spent living in them, and she may feel that after that time she will be on the street, still all alone, now hungry and homeless.

The answer is removing the abuser from the situation, not removing the abused. But our system of law does not support the victom, it provides many supports for the accused.

Answer 3

for one she doesnt want to leave her home and what she has made for herself,she is scared and probably doesnt have the money or means to leave and also she thinks it will get better and the longer you stay the more down she gets and doesnt think there is anything better for her and no one will help her and if she is being abused she is scared to talk about it because she knows it will just get worse for her and this is what the abuser wants he wants the power and control so when it gets worse he gets worse i know because i was there but i ran away from him litterly 1500 miles away i didnt think i would do it but i did sad but true and now im changing my life and i will not put myself in that situation again its to crazy for me

Answer 4

many reasons, they feel they have no other choice, but to stay, no education, no resources, no family, scared. Used to being treated like crap, its very sad. I feel more for the kids in a situation where the mom is abused. Those kids grow up thinking violence is ok, and the cyle continues.

Answer 5

I have first hand experience of this.A woman stays because she truly loves that person.She believes when he says "I love you,thats why I did it", and "I will change and never do it again".Another huge factor is fear.Fear of walking away from the home with nothing.wondering how everything is going to be replaced,scared about money,and where we will live.scared that person will find us.If children are involved it is worse,how do you find a home for them?Replace all their toys,new school?Women need to walk away.Realise material possesssions mean nothing.health safety well-being are priority.Everyone is entitled to a peaceful happy life.

Answer 6

Because she does not have the financial means to leave, find a new place to live and set up a household of her own.
Also she may be too embarrassed to ask for help from friends and family.

Answer 7

maybe she was raised in a abusive home and she thinks it is okay to have to pt up with that. maybe she has a low self esteem and thinks she cant do better. maybe she is afraid to leave for what he will do. maybe he always tells her"i promise ill never do it again.

Answer 8

because thats where she get her identity, she wants to feel like the victim, if she gets out of it, she will just seek out another situation like the one she has, victims are really controllers, if they can drive someone to beat them and abuse them, they have ultimately controlled that person. they feel justified they are the good guy at that point. they inherently have a low opinion of themselves is what drives them to control.

Answer 9

Low self esteem.

Either that or she's financially dependent on him and has no way out.

I'm more inclined to go with my first answer though.

Answer 10

Because she thinks it will change.