He is a nice boy,but comes over everyday to visit. We have alot
to talk about and i do like him. Is this ok? or will my neighbors get
thinking weird. I ain't no micheal jackson. We get along great.
2006-07-03 04:20:48 · 32 answers · asked by baddog 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When i asked him why he likes to come over and visit with me,he responded,because your cool and he likes to talk to me about things.bugs,spyders,and how his mom is towards him. school, when i was young questions too.
2006-07-03 04:56:15 · update #1
its fine
2006-07-03 04:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by ... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many young boys seek out a positive male influence of older stature. Many times they cannot communicate well with their parent or guardian and seek someone outside of their home setting for this guidance. As long as your motives are pure and the visits are open and public you should not feel guilty or ashamed. Also it would be wise to have a conversation with the neighbor in regard to the visits.
2006-07-03 04:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by soultransformation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure his parents are okay with it, and screw what the neighbors think. He could be treating you like a grandfather...maybe he doesn't have one or his is far away, or maybe he doesn't have a dad around and needs a male role model. Just don't sit in your bedroom on the bed watching TV, and you should be fine. The fact that you're concerned about appearances pretty much rules out that you have any unacceptable urges.
think of all the things you could teach this boy from fishing to lawnwork, to whatever your favorite hobbies are.
2006-07-03 04:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by ladylawyer26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's missing a father or father figure in his life? Make sure his mother is aware of these visits and that all is on the up-and-up. Boys get great value from positive male role models, but in our crazy world, you definitely don't want any hint of impropriety. He's a lucky kid to have someone to go talk "boy stuff" with, a lot of young boys don't have that.
2006-07-03 04:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he looks at you like a father figure. There is no telling what is going on in this child's life and you might be ther only on to show him any type of attention. As long as it is okay with his mother or father for him to continue to visit then don't worry about what your neighbors say. Just make he has the permission to continue to come over as often as he does.
2006-07-03 04:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to visit an 84 year old man when I was 13 like daily. No one thought that was strange. We just enjoyed each others company. Maybe you guys can go out and do something fun toghether just to show the nosey neighbors that you are not a perv. Regardless though as long as his parens to not care I do not see why any one else should.
2006-07-03 04:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok as long as u dont have any sexual thoughts, towards him , if u do than back off right away, he may not have a positive male role model in his life, or u may be a little immature, most likely most people on here will say u r a perv, or have other things in mind, but they are just narrowwed minded, they only know what they see on t.v or read in the newpper, or gossip from friends, and then take remote situations,, and blow them up into, this thing where all men who talk to young boys or girls are pervs, ,,
2006-07-03 04:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs a friend and is finding you to be his mentor. You take the time to visit and talk to him and treat him with dignity. You never know what is going on with his home life, he may not want to tell you and finds an escape by visiting you. As he grows into a man, he will never forget the kindness you showed him. Throughout his life he may treat all children as compassionately as you treated him.
2006-07-03 04:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably gets attention from you that he doesn't get at home. As a mother of 3, though, I would be really uncomfortable with it. It sounds harmless, but I would be very careful about never being alone with him--keep visits to the yard in plain view, etc.
2006-07-03 04:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by flybabyny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some children respect and admire their elders. especially ones that don't talk down to them. seems as if you both enjoy the company so I don't see anything wrong with it.
if you are worried about the neighbors then you may want to set up a video camera and tape the visits as a way to prove you did nothing wrong if so accused.
2006-07-03 04:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be a father, or grandfather figure to the boy. Yes, it's OK as long as his parents don't have a problem with it. Don't worry about your neighbors, you know what you're doing and as long as the parents agree, it's really no one else's business.
2006-07-03 04:24:00 · answer #11 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋