I have this friend, he and i have been really close for awhile now...and during first semester i could have sworn that he liked me. He never made the move, however, and we just continued to talk and bond and everything. so then this past semester i had a feeling that he began to like this other gurl...and a few days ago i found out that my suspicions were correct. I am rather hurt and heartbroken...but at the same time am trying to do the right thing and remain his friend. Is there any hope? ps. the girl he likes is horrible...why cant guys see a decent thing in front of them when they have it? I wont wait around for him forever!
2006-07-03 04:05:04 · 26 answers · asked by Alabaster Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Here's my suggestion, as I've been in your situation (with a girl, though) in the recent past. Hope this helps.
Let him explore this thing with the other girl. Be his friend, be his confidant & thru that situation you will have an opportunity to see how he works in a relationship. You'll be amazed at what you uncover thru that process. In the meantime, if there's a subtle attraction between the two of you, enjoy the subtleties & wait your turn. If she's a horrible she-devil, he'll grow tired of it & you will have had the benefit of TIME to show him just how much better than her you are :)
Sometimes patience (in some cases, it requires alot of discipline & bravery when it comes to romance) really is a virtue & you'll be rewarded in the end for it.
2006-07-03 04:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by muzik_guy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he had no idea that you liked him for more then a friend.
Be there as a friend for now. Once this relationship ends with the Horrible chick, be there for him and maybe suggest that you two try being a couple.
If you can't wait, take him out for lunch and tell him how you would really like to see if the two of you could start dating. If he's interested great, if not stay friends and YOU will need to date others. Maybe then he'll get a bit jealous and realize his true feelings for you.
Friends first, lovers later. Thats the best way to make a relationship last.
When I look back at my school days, I had a couple really good male friends that I would've liked to date, but it was only a friendship now that I look back at it. But I am also still friends with those guys.
Boyfriends come and go, but your friends are always there for you.
2006-07-03 04:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy probably really likes you, but is shy. He just needed to know that you were feeling the same way he was. He probably did not want to ruin your friendship. This new girl maybe showed some interest in him, and he knew that he would not be rejected. Stay friends for now, if this girl is not that good, he will not like her for long, or if it just began tell him how you feel as soon as possible. Some guys need to know that you as interested as well.
2006-07-03 04:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by freeman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always say "timing is everything, and mine stinks". seems as if this could work for you too, maybe.
seems as if you waited too long for him to make the first move and now she has. one day he might notice how bad she is for him, or not. he may be so happy to have a girl that he will let her treat him bad. all guys are different.
you should have made a move a long time ago. seems as if he got tired of waiting too but moved on sooner.
now here's the deal. sounds as if neither of you said or did anything to kick off anything more than friendship. if that's the case you have no grounds to get mad. Or maybe you should get mad and sound off and let him know that you were right there waiting but you aren't going to wait any more and tell him goodbye.
if you are a catch then he may realize he screwed up and drop her as he runs for you.
2006-07-03 04:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hit it off immediatly with this guy at drama and I felt myself crushing soon after. He told me before anyone who he liked - and it killed me. I didn't do anything mean like blab or something, but it killed me to look at the beautiful tap dancer (who was dating our bassist). I knew that I wanted to keep him as a friend though - he is so great to be around. So I push my feelings aside and just be cool...he will get it.
Same goes for you! It's the same situation. He will see you in a different light when he is ready. I have faith that my guy will enventually and I believe you have the same chance.
Keep your head up! It's gonna work out...
...and it if doesn't? Then there is something better right on the horizon.
2006-07-03 04:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with this guy...what if you let the opportunity pass and he is miserable...What if the two of you are supposed to be together...You at least need to let him know how you feel. Make sure he knows tho that if he chooses the other girl you will still be there for him as a friend....But what if he is only with her cuz he doesnt think he can have you...Trust me I have been in the same situation that you are in...Tell him...
2006-07-03 04:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by KELLY H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy-friend in high school, called him my best friend, he and I would deal with all the crap that came our ways...his parents, my boyfriends, etc. One time he asked me to date him, (we had actually tried that before, and he left me for another girl) and I told him, "You know, we are better off friends." And it turns out, he is still my best friend (we have since graduated college...he was in my wedding, and he is now engaged. We still keep in touch. I found this is the best thing. Sometimes the best way to ruin a friendship is to start dating, and sometimes not. But be strong of heart, if this girl is a jerk (like the one that dated my friend) he will be back.
2006-07-03 04:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to somehow leave him know how you feel about him. maybe he doesn't understand that you want more than a friendship. i don't know if you are a shy peson, but just getting him alone and saying what you have to say might do the trick. at least you will know where you stand with him and he will know how you feel. if he is a true friend, you will still have that if that is something you can live with. and you never know what the future may bring
2006-07-03 04:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by eric g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him how you feel and tell him that you think the girl he's going out with is wrong for him. I think telling him the truth and about your feelings for him will set everything straight. There is of course the chance he may only like you as a friend but thats the chance you have to take to get him.
2006-07-03 04:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't really known him long enough or established enough of a relationship to think of him as your own property so I am sure it is a teensy bit early to be heartbroken!
If you like him, ask him out - that's the only way he will know you are interested in him. BTW, take it easy - good relationships don't need to be rushed.
2006-07-03 04:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋