My fiance and I have been together for 3+ years. Some crazy things have happened in our relationship and even though we are together and living happily I still wonder...will he leave me? My fiance and I met on a online dating site. We started chatting then took it to the phone then we had a date and things were going great. Oh, so you know he is 43 and I am 26. Okay so a week goes by and NO I didn't have sex with him!!! Well things were going great and he had told me was going to some resturaunt bar place to watch a game with a friend. Well come to find out he had actually went up to OK to get laid by some skank...then turned around and had his estranged wife come over that same night. So anyways.....long story short...he continued to **** around on me and we finally split up. We stayed that way for about 6-7 months when we finally started talking again. Now he and I have been together for 2 years going strong with no problems. Will it stay this way? or will he screw around?
2006-07-03 04:01:42 · 8 answers · asked by Brians Texan Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
During the first part of our relationship he did not just cheat after one week. he did it continuously for the entire time with his estranged wife. NOW when he and I split for that six months we had NO contact but out of the blue I got an email from him and we started talking again. Just catching up telling eachother what had been going on. I had moved on, I was dating another man...not seriously, but just having fun. I have 5 children so I was doing much fun... Anyways, he and I decided to gout for dinner one night and one thing led to another and my heart couldn't stop from loving him still. So we decided to start over...take it slower this time and see what happens. His son was happy about it (he is 15 and my fiance has him full time). My kids didn't know him really, because I hadn't really introduced them to him...I was leary about doing that. So after about 6 months we decided that we didn't want anything other than eachother and we moved in together. All eight of us...
2006-07-03 05:03:26 · update #1
We have been living togethe rnow for over a year going STRONG. There has been nothing to make me think that he would do anything to hurt me, but I have heard it all before as well. Once a cheater always a cheater, but I think with him it was different. He was nervous, scared...it wasn't just that he was ******* a 24 year old (when we first met) but that he had actually fell in love with me, but he still wasn't sure about his estranged wife. Once he figured out she was never going to change and that he just was not happy with her, and that she treated his son like ****, that he had to go. So thats when we started talking again and one thing led to another and here we are. He admits fully to what he did, he told me everything...he was always honest about it even if it was after the fact. The pain is still there and thats the hardest thing to deal with.....my pain, hurt and anger over it all. I know he is 17 years older than me and that doesn't bother me. He is an amazing man...
2006-07-03 05:06:39 · update #2
He was a "single" man living off of SS in a small two bedroom with just him and his son with no acre in the world. No job...nothing. but he took my children and me on and went and got a job as a garbage man...he hates it (though he is in the best shape of his life now lol) but he does it everyday in this Texan heat...because he loves us and wants us to be together. We also just bought a car and though we are not married he wanted it to be in BOTH of our names. Also we are going to be buying a house soon....(his idea) So I am sure he loves me and wants to be with me forever, but will the pain , hurt and anger ever go away?
2006-07-03 05:08:55 · update #3
Well, how does your GUT feel about all this? And how do YOU feel about it? If deep down in your gut, you know this is not going to happen again, then go for it girl...but I'd wait on the marriage thing, for sure. However, if you truly feel that he is something you should resolve and move on from, then do it, you are young and have your entire life ahead of you.
2006-07-03 04:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past is the past. Only a week? You two were not committed at the time, hey he has needs too. Now, you two love each other for 2 years and I am sure he got all that stuff out of his system. I have been with my wife for 13 years now. We were seeing each other for a couple of months and I had some girls on the side, sure I don't feel great about it but at the time I was not committed. Now and even back then when I felt I was committed, all that crap stopped and I would never see anyone else ever again. He is probably the same way.
I hope this helps you and enjoy what you have, not to many people get to do that.
2006-07-03 04:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hadn't figured out how to do the right thing and treat people's feelings with respect by the timehe was 40 he isn't going to. He knows in the back of his mind that he can screw around on you and still get you back, because he alreadt did. He also know how to manipulate someone half his age because he has been exactly where you're at, and probably so have his kids.
Also remember, women live an average of 10 years longer than men, he is 17 years older than you, so if you marry him you can expect o be a widow for about 27 years. That is a long time to be lonely, longer than you have been alive so far.
2006-07-03 04:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by TexasRed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That seems like really odd behavior for someone his age, so I'd be skeptical. How long were things "going great" before he did this - went to OK to get laid, etc? If it was only a week, then that is different from two months. Still, it is immature behavior for someone his age. And how did you find out what he did, did he tell you, or did you find out on your own? I don't really have enough information to draw any conclusions here, but I'd just be careful. You know the situation best.
2006-07-03 04:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 15:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by gwinnjr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hard to say. I have heard once a cheater always a cheater.Has he gave you any reason not to trust him besides that one time? If so then i would be wondering if he will do it again.
2006-07-03 04:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like during the split he realized that he wanted to be with you so I think you should stop worrying and just be happy
2006-07-03 04:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE IS REALLY SERIOUS ABOUT COMMITTING TO YOU AND ONLY YOU...IT IS POSSIBLE THAT IT WILL WORK THIS TIME...I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION WITH MY SONS FATHER WE WAS ENGAGED AFTER DATING FOR 8 YEARS..HE CHEATED ON ME WIT HIS BABY MAMA...BUT I STILL TOOK HIM BACK AND HE NEVA DID IT AGAIN
2006-07-03 04:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋