racist parents. what should i do?

Question

my parents wont stop making racist comments. i mean its literally one after another. what should i do?

Answer 1

Wow, man, I hate that for you but I'm glad that you see past their closed-mindedness. Let me tell you a story about a couple of former co-workers. They were sitting in a group, and someone was telling racist jokes, most likely about black people (I wasn't there, but I live in the Southeast US and there's a lot of that crap--racists I mean). One of these co-workers, a Greek girl, asked one of my buddies to tell a racist joke, so he told this one:
"Why don't Greeks have freckles? Because they slide right off their faces!"
Funny that she didn't laugh--in fact, she got quite mad when he joked about her race. Just an idea in parable form for you to mull over--I don't think that girl ever asked my friend to tell her any more racist jokes again.

Answer 2

This is a tough one- you should stand up for what you believe, but you walk a narrow line since they are your parents and you don't want to make them take things out on you...I understand.

Try to point out the great things all people do- around you and on television or in movies or in the news- keep a positive spin on things and maybe (just maybe) they will begin to note the same. It will take a long time though; sounds like it's pretty ingrained in them. No matter what, you do not have to agree with them; and you can interject your non-racist point of view.

Also- do you feel comfortable talking to them? Ask them why they make those remarks. Tell them how their actions and comments make you feel; how you would appreciate them stopping it (at least when you are not there). It doesn't solve the problem, but it's a small start to a BIG problem.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Well, the fact that you have already noticed that their comments are racist is a huge advance. As far as I can see you don't agree with them, so what I recommend you to do, is not to try to discuss racism topics with them, because the only thing you will get is going to be a big separation between you and your parents. And if they really want you to give an opinion about what they are saying you should say something like: "I really don't agree with you, but it's good that each one of us have a different point of view on the matter". So they will understand that the fact that you don't agree with them doesn't necessarily mean that you hate them or something similar. in this way you don't say that they are right, and you don't argue either... hope it helps!

Answer 4

If I were you I would try to explain that skin colour doesn't define a person to them, however don't just say it to them straight, try to make them think about it over time. If you come straight out with it, they will be offended and freak out. At first try to show them examples of people of other races that are good e.g. "Mum did you hear of that black/white/Asian kid who *insert good thing*".

Or you can just ignore it.

My parents are racist, they don't just make racist comments, they do stupid stuff. For example I go to a girls only non-Catholic school, there are lots of Muslims in my school. Whenever I make a friend my parents ask me if she is Muslim, even if I say no they will still give a 20 min speech about how all the Muslims are just planning to blow a bomb in school. When ever a non-English speaking person passes out house he stares at them while getting ready to beat the crap out of them in case if they try to kill us. Also at home we have enough food for a month, in case there is a war. Yeah my parents are crazy.

Answer 5

i have a racist dad; he's a lawyer and the majority of people he prosicutes are african american. so. i either talk back and get yelled at, or let it slide and stew inwardly in anger. i don't know. i'm really not a talk-type of person. but maybe...make it important for them to hear how you feel about it. say it's important to you. obviously if they didn't like something YOU were saying there would be an end to it right away, right? equality. yeah right.
Did this help?

Answer 6

Get even. If your black date a white girl, If your white Date a black. Joing the NAACP, Join a political party that is opposite of your parents, over to host a volenteer effort of the race they are condeming....Its up to YOU to open their eyes...be creative. Invite a person from the race they are condemning from the local homeless shelter home for dinner...Get involved and go to some leaders from the race they are against and approach them to pay a visit to them...this forces them to be nice Good luck

Answer 7

that is good for you that means you are smart .you dont let any prejudice blind your eyes,
4 me i will tell them that why or how i dont agree with them and that not a good thing to do to let others ppl know that they are racist but some ppl are really hard to change so if they'll stil be the same after i tell them i 'll just shut up and walk away when they do it
some ppl just cant change they have to know it themself

Answer 8

tell them they should be a little more open minded. they are being retarded and need to grow up. God made everyone and no one is better than any other person just because of skin color. Racist people get on my nerves.

Answer 9

Hi!

Tough hey? I am black and I am tired of black people who are racist just because some white people oppressed them!!!

But here's a little advice...

You can embarrass them by getting one of the poeple of the race(s) they despise to do something good to them...

Easy...if they hate white people, get a white person to do something good to them. They will gradually be embarrassed to continue with their racist talk!

Hug!

Answer 10

I am dating someone outside of my own race, my family doesn't approve. When he calls they hang up on him, or whatever they can so we can't talk on the phone. i think you probably can't change peoples minds if they choose to think a certain way, but you can decide for yourself how you are going to think and feel about other people. Racism is something that can die out with past generations if we choose to let it.