Do I have a higher risk of miscarriage??

Question

My boyfriend and I are going to be married soon and are going to try to have a baby. However, my concern is that he has gotten two women pregnant previously but both of them claim to have had a miscarriage. Both of them do believe in abortion though and I know one for a fact would have done it. But if they both did have miscarriages, am I at a greater risk?

I know I have HPV and he has HPV and Genital Herpes. I probably have herpes now too, which is fine with me because I'm going to spend the rest of my life with him and no one else. But will either of these two STDs have an affect?

Answer 1

One in four recognized pregnancies ends in a spontaneous miscarriage (SAB), so by the odds, it is a 1/8 chance that his 2 pregnancies ended as a SAB. However, if the two women had abortions and didn't tell him, obviously there is no increased risk to you. If indeed they both did have miscarriges as you ask, there is still NOT a greater risk for you to have a SAB. Only if a person has had 3 or more SABs is there an increased genetic risk for recurrent pregnancy loss, and in those cases, a blood chromosome analysis in both the man and the woman is suggested. Of those, 95% have normal results and there is not a 'genetic' cause. Either way, even if you were at increased risk, would that really change your plans to conceive with your new husband? Good luck!

Answer 2

These women having miscarriages have nothing to do with you. If anything it may be indicative of your boyfriend having a problem. If both of you have HPV and Herpes that could make getting pregnant difficult. Especially if it resides in the cervix. You are at a higher risk for cervical cancer, so I suggest you visit your Gyno regularly for pap smears.
Stress will aggravate both of these STD's. Pregnancy is stress. You may have an outbreak or outbreaks of both during this time. When you are at term they may opt for a C-section to prevent the baby from getting it on the way through the birth canal.
There should be no problem with getting pregnant when he is showing no signs of outbreak with either one. Even if he is using a topical ointment during the time that you are conceiving you may still get pregnant, it won't affect the fertility nor the embryo. The only way that the baby would get it is if it was a blood bourne std like syphillis. The baby is well protected by the mucus plug and the fetal membrane, so you can still carry on an active sex life during your pregnancy.
Herpes antibodies in the mother's blood cross the placenta to the fetus. These antibodies help protect the baby from acquiring infection during birth, even if there is some virus in the birth canal. So if you are clean during the birth you will be given the choice to have it naturally.
But be certain that you have herpes. To say you might have it is not enough. Get tested. If you have herpes when you get pregnant there isn't a problem because of the antibodies. But if you contract it while getting pregnant, this could be dangerous for the baby. Here are a couple of sites that can help you with your questions.
Good Luck and Congratulations!!

Answer 3

it is your body not theirs , therefore you body is different than theirs are .
something to take into account , alot of women like to play the I am pregnant game , they will claim to be pregnant , then tell their man , just to pretend they miscarried a little while later .
it is some sick twisted game and i do not know nor understand why it is played. my guess is for attention and getting the most dramatic response from people who care .
i would honestly ask your boyfriend if he ever went to the doctor with either of them and seen proof himself , at the doctors office either visual or the doctor verbally confirming the pregnancies . if he says no i would then ask how long they spent in the hospital after the miscarriage, if he states he dont know how long they were there or they didnt go at all . then i would rest assured and would be left to believe they were not pregnant , but going for the horror factor of poor me , i lost our love child , pitty me , lets see how much i can screw with your mind !
sadly it happens

Answer 4

Just because they claim to have had miscarriages does not mean you are more prone. And, as you mentioned - how true are their stories? Also, as far as the STD's check with a doctor. I wouldn't even attempt to guess. Although you say you're going to be with him forever, things can change......always use protection.

Answer 5

when it comes to you having a miscarriage that depends on your body and your body alone with you having a STD your risks are higher of having a miscarriage this should be something to you need to talk to your doctor before trying to have a baby i have had 2 miscarriages and it is mentally painful

Answer 6

No. Eat right, don't smoke, exercise regularly and get a physical from your family doctor. Also, if you are trying to concieve you should probably be on pre natal vitamins. Good luck.

Answer 7

NOT unless you bf has given you some sort of infection or STD or something.
miscarraige usually has to do with the body of the mother.

Answer 8

I don't think it has anything to do with him really. If it's not meant to be then it's not. I would be careful though if he's gotten two other girls pregnant before... STD's and such.

Answer 9

You have nothing to worry about.are you sure that the 2 girls were really pregnant.Some girls lie and say that they are pregnant then when they see that the guy doesn't want them they wait alittle while then say that they lost the baby.

Answer 10

it depenps on what the women has done while they were pregneant. besides all women are different. my advice to you is to stay as helaty as possible while you're pregnent.