I used to be happily married to a wonderful man. I am still married to that man, but I have no desire at all for sex. None. Not just with him, I Have no desire for anyone. We used to have a very passionate relationship. Now? Nothing. What's wrong with me? What can I do? I love him, I just don't want him to touch me. HELP!
2006-07-03 03:09:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have/had/have the same problem. My problem is me though. Its how I feel about how I look. I still have 20+ pounds to lose from our last child...she's 4. And I just can't seem to get motiviated to get the weight off.
There are times when I can make myself 'feel' like I look the way I want to look and things go much better. :)
2006-07-03 03:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no desire the first thing to do is see a doctor to find out if there is an underlieing madical problem. If there is no problem there take a look around and see what has changed in YOUR life, that could be causing stress that you haven't acknowledged and dealt with. If that isn't the problem try something diffrent that you normally wouldn't do, if you are the shy type next time you are riding with your husband remove your top for a couple minutes or show up for dinner at a favorite resteraunt wearing a revealing outfit.. After that I have no ideas
2006-07-03 04:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read in a magazine that taking the pill can make your libido drop because of the hormones, so if you take the pill that might be the reason.
There is just times when you really have stress at work or family, or money stress, and that will certainly affect your sex life.
With sex, the more you do it, the more you want it. So just act as if you are into it and relax, and minutes later you will probably get excited.
Quick fix: If you need help to get relaxed, just go out for dinner together and have a bit of wine, or have the wine at home ... wine can help you relax.
And a visit to your gyn will help to see if it is the hormones.
2006-07-03 03:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by yogmog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the exact situation right now, and the situation even drove me to think that I may want to end the marriage. But we've decided to go to therapy to work things out. But I knew why I didn't want him to touch me. Do you know? Is it the way he touches you? Is it too rough and demanding, no affection? It could be that. I found this was true in my case...too much lustful sex without romantic lovemaking gets tiring...i was looking for something else and eventually even if I still love him, I realized I was not sexually attracted to him anymore. That's what we're working on. But I'm thinking, is it possible to get that attraction and feelings back? I'm not optimistic, but I'm still giving it a try. Good luck on your end. Just think about what makes you feel the way you do. It could be that you haven't been getting what you want and need from him. It's not about whether he's wonderful or if you still love him. It's about how he's able to attend to your needs sexually or even emotionally. Good luck and keep us all updated :-)
2006-07-03 04:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Amy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your age. That may have something to do with it, especially if you are heading towards the change of life. However, if that is not the case, perhaps you should schedule an appointment with your health care physician.
2006-07-03 03:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to that question could lie in your age, are you old enough to be menapausal? Maybe you should see your doctor. There are many reasons for low libido.
2006-07-03 03:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mmenard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor. There are treatments available for reduced sex drive.
2006-07-03 03:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just visit to your doctor?
2006-07-03 03:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by hermie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should see your doctor... this happens a lot though...
2006-07-03 03:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blow up the moon
2006-07-03 03:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by c_section_divorce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋