I have been a good friend of a person for more than 6 years. But when i lost my job and faced a dire future, he had just abondoned me and didn't even bother to contact me for months. Later when i got a good job, he wants to continue our friendship. When he met with an accident, i was there to help him in the hospital. but i am not comfortable in our friendship like before. What can i do? How can i handle this relationship crisis?
2006-07-03 02:51:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
break it up for good
2006-07-03 02:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by sigmastar _62 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had friends like that. Time and time again I did everything for him. I sheltered him, fed him, clothed him, counseled him, etc. and whenever I needed a favor in return, he usually told me to go screw myself or just plain stood me up. Because of how long the friendship lasted, I guilted myself into doing all the work and keeping it together to make it last cause it sucks to lose a friend that you've known since childhood but sometimes you just have to let go. There was a time I needed to go to hospital and he told me to quit being a baby and that I didn't need to go right away... I'm sorry, but you don't tell someone that when they're in severe pain and medicines had no effect. That was the last straw...
I'm sure you know what I did as well as my answer to this question. You are a true friend however, your friend is what we call a "fair weather friend" who only sticks around during good times and wants nothing to do with the bad. All take and no give, sounds an awful lot like a parasite, doesn't it? This "friend" is deadweight and NOT a keeper. Kick'em to the curb, after you're done guilting yourself for it (like I did) you'll look back and realize what you got rid of and be glad you did.
2006-07-03 10:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not waste my important life on that kind of person. He is no friend, honey, he is using you for some selfish reason. Perhaps when you lost it all, he was embarrassed to be with you. Does that sound like a real friend?? I don't think so. You sound desperate - so work on your self-esteem, it's the one thing in trouble here. Don't allow others to determine your self-worth, you are quite capable of learning to do that yourself! Have the dignity to relate that message to him and then leave and don't look back! There's better out there, believe me!
2006-07-03 09:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by lavenderbluelassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he found it difficult to deal with your situation, but he still should've been there for you. You sound like a better friend than he is, but sometimes people deal with things differently. You should be honest and tell him how you feel. It will get it out of your system, and give him a chance to explain his reasons for letting you down so badly when you needed him.
2006-07-03 09:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very distant one. Lack of trust is very hard to overcome
2006-07-03 10:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you spend money on this friend or does he mooch off of you because it sounds like he is after your money to me.
2006-07-03 09:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be his acquintance. der's no need for u to even care for him unnesessarily. just be curtious wen u meet dat's it. if he asks for help refuse politely but firmly. also dont expect anything from him.
2006-07-03 09:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a very wary one. don't pour yourself out into this friendship coz i don't think he cares enough about you for you to invest emotionally on him
2006-07-03 09:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by circe8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't forgive him give it up
2006-07-03 09:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋