Me and my husband separated about 5 mon. ago. I left him because I was seeing someone else he doesn't know that though. I did still love and wanted to be with him but, I wanted some time to myself. He has told me everyday how much he loved me and wanted to come home. Well, I went through his phone and found a number and called it and it was a woman he has been seeing who didn't even know he was married. He says it was just friends and nothing happened but, she said they have been having sex. I just don't know why he wouldn't just tell me he didn't want to be together instead of telling me how bad he wanted to be with me when he had her. He has never lied to me before but, I just kept catching him in lies now. I don't know if I could go back and it still not be in my mind. I have cheated on him but, he has never caught me or anything he has no idea. Could I trust him ever again? Should I go on with my life?
2006-07-03 02:45:31 · 18 answers · asked by Megan J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would leave before he gets you sick.(std)
Every time he cheats you come closer to catching somthing that will kill you.
2006-07-03 02:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to make sure your mind is clear too, whether he knows or not you have been cheating, you know. You can't say that helps with the marriage either. If you both want to really work it out you are going to need some counseling and a lot of heavy praying. God can help you pull through everything. Yes you could trust him fully again. It would take a while, but another question is could he trust you. I think you need to come clean with him on your naughtiness too.
2006-07-03 09:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The final decision will be on you, but you have a lot of nerve. You expected this man to do without while you were out having your cake & ice cream. He is a tipical man, who will only own up to his actions if he's actually caught up in them. If you didn't see it, then it didn't happen. Isn't this what you're doing to him. What makes you think he don't know about you? He could just be waiting for you to try to play faithful and give him grief before he burst your bubble. You talking about trust in this relationship is hipocridical. Your best out may be to go on with your life for your expections of his not cheating again. After all, you needed your space first, right?
2006-07-03 09:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if the both of you guys are cheating then you guys need to ask yourself an important question Do you really want to be together? And well not to offend you or your mate but maybe you guys need to work on your sex lives. Be creative, buy some toys, get some games, play dress up, and role play. Maybe you guys are cheating because your sex lives needs a little help.
2006-07-03 10:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are like most women. You see nothing at all wrong with sexing anyone you want. At least a man will have guilt feelings about it. Do him a favor and just admit to him you're a s l u t and that you always will be so he can find and build a life with someone decent.
2006-07-03 10:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the way you typed this. You cheated prior to the separation. It sounds like he 'cheated' after the separation. Is this right?
I understand your trust issues with him, but if he knew what you had been doing, he would't want you back in the first place.
2006-07-03 10:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having a case of the "how can he do this to me". Get over it. You were not faithful to him but you expect him to be faithful to you. In order for you to stay in this relationship you both have to be honest with each other. I think you should just move on. If you were really committed to your husband you would not have cheated.
2006-07-03 09:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by grateful4today 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord woman! Both of you need counseling in exactly what the definition is of honesty and trust. And then you both need to put what you learn into practice. As to the state of your marriage... who knows... that's up to the two of you, although I wouldn't trust or touch either one of you wtih a 10 foot pole.
2006-07-03 09:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by hipcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to quit playing pitiful pete and get your man back if you want him. and if your gonna continue cheating then leave him the hell alone. he picked up and got a lil happiness for himself. you didnt want him till you found out somebody esle wants him. right or wrong? until you found the number and called her you were fine playing your lil game. yes, you should go on with your life. and let him do the same.
2006-07-03 09:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i think the both of u and him needs to get some marriage counsel because u and him need help bad both of u cheated of each other . and he do not know u cheated on him . but u are mad because he cheated on u what kind of realshiption is that
2006-07-03 10:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋