My wife recently conceived during an affair and the bio dad/her lover wants to take part in the pregnancy and birth of "their child". I know by law I am the father, but she has told me that it would mean a lot to her if he is present for all the stages of her pregnancy and the birth. We have not brought up the birthcertificate yet, but I assume my name would be on it. Has any one heard of the bio dad having his name instead of the husband. I am not upset at all with my bride having this affair. We have a very liberated marriage and her lover is a very kind person.
2006-07-03 01:36:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The bio dad is an old boyfriend that she nearly married before I came along. They had a "re-union" fling and the diaphragm aparently did not work.
2006-07-03 01:45:20 · update #1
To mettaraine
How has the bio dad being on the birth certificate worked out for your brother. I can really see myself letting my wife decide to add him instead of me.
2006-07-03 01:52:19 · update #2
Sounds like she would rather be with the lover then you. Sounds like she is in the process of pushing you to the curb. Don't be a fool...don't be blind....you are going to get hurt. She will put his name on the BC. That is the child's blood father. At least that's what she will say. Be careful of your feelings and are you truly liberal or is that something else she is saying?
2006-07-03 01:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by uma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I dont know how you would be ok with your wife having an afair. I could never do that. She would hit the door right behind him. Why would you want to be a husband to a woman that cheats on you? If your marriage was like that then she would have told you about him and it wouldnt have been an afair!!!!! Have some self respect. I am not trying to be rude but damn dude. Why would you want a life like that? Sounds like you are to easy and you let her push you around. There is nothing wrong with being in love and being sweet to the one lady. But anough is anough. Sounds like to me she has you wraped around your finger. I know this is not what you wanted to hear. I just feel for you bro. I hate to see anyone go through this. They are always going to have some sort of contact together b/c of the child involved. Do you really want that? I think you need to step back and re think all of this. I dont think you see the big picture. Good luck.
2006-07-03 08:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe this gentleman to be a kind person, than allow him the opportunity to be with his child. I also believe if you allow this man to take part in the birth, the child will feel the love he or she is surrounded in, and that is a good thing.
I know first hand on the bio Dad having his name on the birth certificate, instead of the husband. This has happened to my brother.
2006-07-03 08:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by mettaraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are as oaky with the affair as you claim to be then you wouldn't have any problems with her lover being there for the birth of his child. Maybe you aren't as oaky withit as you seem to act and you really don't want him in her life anymore. It seems to me that bio dad should be the one ith his name on the certificate, he is the birth father, not you.
2006-07-03 08:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are fine with the situation. I hope that feeling last for the sake of the child. You need to establish some rules now and probably see a lawyer. Why does your wife want him present? Does she love him? Are you that liberated?
2006-07-03 08:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is the father what kind of person wouldn't want to be around his kid a deadbeat
2006-07-03 08:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by Rox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋