marraiges in the east?

Question

are mostly arranged, and they dont date or live together as we in the west do. (most of them)
what worries me is how can a woman sleep with her husband for the first time when they have never even kissed or talked about sex or got intimate before they were married?
i have met lots of such couples during my travels in the 3rd world.
i am shocked, are you?

Answer 1

Shocked ?? ... you should have seen my parents' faces when i told them about your question ...

Having sex before marriage or outside marriage is something shameful here in middle east ... and no man or woman here would agree to your doings ...

I am a Muslim girl from middle east ... and I would rather die than to do this ...

What you are doing together is a pure LUST ... no emotions about it ...

That when you get married ... you don't get enough with only one man or one woman ... you get used to have so much fun with different people ... which ruins so many marriages ... don't deny that...

And traditional marriage is better actually ... the married couple learn together ... start their life together ... with love and respect ... not just LUST ...

The proof of what I say is that divorce rates in middle east are not even near divorce rates in west countries...

Family bonds are stronger ... no parent just abandon his child ... and no child disobey his parent ... RESPECT is the keyword to relationships in Middle East ...

Not just Muslims ... but also Eastern Christians ... whom in Middle East never divorce at all ... it's forbidden ... and Eastern Christians are so much religious than western are ...

So they don't have dates ... and also have arranged marriages too ...

Answer 2

Well, things were that way in the west too not that long ago either. I am not shocked, and, as always with sex for the first time, it depends on the partners how it will happen - will they talk about it first? Will they consider each other's sensations? No matter how much you've heard or talked about it, first time is The First Time, and nothing can aleviate that (well, some sci-fi suggests a way to aleviate that - check out Vorkosigan series, discussion is available in Barrayar, Warrior's Apprentice, A Civil Campaign, and I think a couple of others).
Think of it this way - in the movie Cama Sutra - A Tale of Love, one indian prince marries a princess. The ceremony lasts for days; the first night of the ceremony, when they are still in the bride's home (and the two are not allowed to touch, I think), one of the girls in the princess's household goes to the prince, it is the first time for her, and she definitely doesn't dislike it. After that, however, the prince really likes the girl, and when the princess runs her out of her household, the prince is very, very rough with the princess on _her_ first time. Same man, both the women do it for the first time, but their experiences are totally different.

My point is - it is not tragic that the couple do not sleep with each other before marriage.

I do dislike the fact that men are supposed to have some experience at that point, and women are shunned if they do...

Answer 3

Right you are and they stay married long then the people in the United State until death do them part old age and all
There maybe something about arrange marriage
Some in the LUSA doesn't start married
let see 1-20 years if you lucky
Plus more killing of the spouse in the USA
Then any country in the world

Answer 4

I'm from Saudi Arabia! u might say what a bad culture or bad poeple who drinks Petrol instead of milk! lol

any way, I'm here to tell you that how is it possible to sleeb with some girl you've just met on a bar or somethin! you or her miybe have that crash ! but SEX is not only a human need as it is the way to keep humans on the earth.. its emotional! you can change your self but you cannt change your wife! SHE IS A HUMAN BEING AND CANNT BE TREATED AS A SEX TOY!!! where is actually happened in your FIRST WORLD!!

I believe that Marriage is just as a company! might work or might not!

but u know.. the most working ones is the traditional which u call it weared! any way if you wanna have any more details about our traditional marriage and how it works out you can contact me

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Answer 5

Yes...I am shocked...at you...!!!
No sex before marriage, it looses it's taste if tired befor marriage.
The greatest taste comes on the first night.
For centuries man has practiced this action with requiring "training" or education.It comes natural, and it will be more pure and clean for both to be virgins. In the wast it has turned to be an animal practice, pure lust with so "called love" that evaporates in short time...because it has been tried before, and would like to continue trying it with some one different.

I am Shocked by you.

Answer 6

Being a part of it, I am not. When we meet for the first time, we have our own charm to know more, to learn more, to tell more about each other. For us, our relations start after marraige and for west its just other way around ( like having babies and then get married?)

Answer 7

marriage is not only sex
they know each other well then they marry
and having sex for the 1st time, every thing has 1st time.... huh????

Answer 8

....i met my husband online,,,,we shagged on my first nite there and it was magic,,,the unknown is cool as,,,,think bak wen u were young...if u were like me u just wanted someone cool...most people r cool,,,seperation is bad,,,very bad..