I dont love my wife anylonger. She is an angel and takes gr8 care of me and is fiercely loyal to me.?

Question

After an year of our marriage I feel I dont love her anylonger. She doesnt have anybody else to turn to. I am abusive, mad and drunk, but she puts up with me. Had many sexual flings after marrying her. I dont want to divorce her nor do I want to kill her. What shall I do?

Answer 1

U r a lucky dog.......U gt an angel as Ur wife and look what you are doing to her? How on earth could you be abusive towards her? You know she doesn't have any one else to turn to and you are taking advantage of her. Why dont you want to divorce her? Is it because you know the women with whom you had or are having sexual flings wouldn't put up with you like the way your angel is doing? Is it because you know nobody will ever take care of you, like the way this poor girl is taking? Or is it because you know you cant trust any girls like the way you trust your wife. Man you are sick......Either you get help or divorce your wife. Let her live.........

Answer 2

"Nor do you want to kill her"!!!??? When did such a thing become an option? It's hard to admit our faults and hard to change them, no doubt. If your aren't going to seek some sort of counseling regarding your anger, then you KNOW that you should leave. You also need to realize that you have problems and WANT help regarding the drinking, the anger, the cheating. You don't mention your age, but personally, to me it seems you really didn't love her anyway - at least not the kind of love a person should feel to marry another. My brother was an alcoholic and did the same thing. It isn't fair, it isn't right. You don't mention children - if you don't have any, I believe that is good, and don't by any means have children to "save" your marriage and think that it will magically make things better, PLEASE. Children are a true blessing, but a baby isn't likely to make your situation better. It seems as though she loves you very much for some reason - she must see some good in you, but staying with her because she has nobody to turn to is simply wrong, she'll be very hurt, but life goes on and so will she. If you're at the rock bottom she'll be there to help you and support you should you truly want to change. If you don't know where to start, call your local hospital information center, call AA, social services, there are places you can get help, just keep trying. Just so you know that I have an idea of alcoholism - this coming 11th will mark four years for my brother that died of alcoholism at the grand 'ol age of 33, this coming 8th will mark the 12-yr. point of my uncle's death from alcoholism, his age 47. Both were very smart, but just couldn't get themselves to truly, truly, truly WANT the help. That's where it starts, YOU accepting and TRULY wanting help - otherwise, you'll be wasting others time who are trying to help you, which again isn't fair. Life is tough, no doubt. But being a drunk doesn't solve a thing whatsoever, for you, or anyone that cares for you. PLEASE look deep inside and find the part of you that wants true help, so you can live a sober life without all the anger. Pray, God is always awake!!! :)

Answer 3

Sadly you sound as though you only care about yourself. Re-read the words in your question. You say, "I don't want to divorce her..." If you truly cared about your wife, you would give her an option for happiness by straightening out your behavior as far as the abuse, anger and alcholol, seek counceling, and be faithful. She sounds as though she has given you everything a person could want, but if you no longer love her, you should tell her so, because otherwise you are staying with her out of purley selfish reasons. Give her a chance to be happy, either with you, or without you.

Answer 4

Love is a choice, act on that choice, and the feelings come later.
This is a simple answer but think about it, and you will save your marriage. You get out of a relationship what you put into it.

Answer 5

if you don't love her divorce her ....so she can find someone who is worthy of all , as you obviously are not and can not give back the same loyalty and effection . Their are women like yourself that you would be better off with ..My best friend was dumped years ago by her fiance for a stripper that was like a yonger looking version of her . they married 2mths after meetting and eventually in less than a year he found out her overnight trips were with men she met at strip joint . You deseve someone like yourself and she deserves someone with more dedication and moral values like herself

Answer 6

You dont want to divorce her and you dont want to kill her. Well that's a relief. who are you, God? You can definitely list killing in the "not an option" section? Congratulations. If you talked like that around me and I was your wife, I'd probably be on my best behavior too and put up with your ****. I wouldnt want to die.

Answer 7

Buddy if u losse a wife like her, then i musy say u will b the most unlucky person in this world. Its rare to find true and pure life parteners in ur life. and u are that much lucky......so treasure ur wife...and try to change a little the world will bcome heaven to U.....

Answer 8

Go for christian counseling, intensive therapy, and improve yourself. You will end up in jail and live a very unhappy life if you don't work to better yourself now. Sounds like you have a good woman..........now be worthy of her. You can't loves omeone else completely unless you love yourself first.

Answer 9

If you are mad abusive and drunk,in my opinion you only have one obligation.that is the get sober and get counciling,or leave right away.your wife doesnt deserve that kind of punishment even though she is to insecure to leave.you knew this and didnt have to ask.

Answer 10

Maybe she is w/ you because she is scared to leave you.

You are a jerk and you know it. Go ahead and divorce her and let her go on w/ her life. She will be better in the long run!