my best friend does not tell me whenever she breaks up with a boy friend but tells me about a new relationship. This has happened almost four times now. What is the problem? is it that she does not trust me? Or she is ashamed of her behaviour of changing boyfriends now and again? I consider her as a friend and i tell her everything.
2006-07-03 00:55:13 · 9 answers · asked by nyax 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She's her own person. You tell her everything because you choose to tell her everything. You might expect that she do the same, but she doesn't, and she isn't going to. Your boundaries on the friendship are more expansive and open than hers.
If you want to maintain the friendship, accept that.
If you don't want to accept that, speak with her about it. If she values you, she may consider complying. If she values you, she may say that this is the most she can give and is willing to give.
The choice to maintain the friendship is then yours to make.
2006-07-03 01:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by cboni2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what maybe they break up with her.She doesn't want to admit that to you.or even herself.I have no idea what age you are,be careful what you tell friend or not..Some people will get mad at their friends and turn on them.you never know when green bug will bite( jealousy) Be true to your friend accept what tells you, and what she doesn't. all well woke out in the end. You may want to ask her this question yourself.that even better idea.Good luck and watch what you say.. Auntie Jane
2006-07-03 01:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by ocbeachmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, she is ashamed. May be she does not feel at all free to give you bad news.
Dont you feel, its not that easy to discuss about breaking up. May be there will lot of questions, who was responsible or whose fault was that. All these discussions are not easy and comfortable.
Its better that she gives you good news like gatting a new boy friend.
2006-07-03 01:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Rain M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's things in life you don't always feel like sharing. Especially with break ups you don't feel like explaning why it happened and you just want to get over it. That's probably how your friend feels like and that's probably the reason for her not telling you. Just be glad that she shares the good things with you.
2006-07-03 01:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes it is hard ot explain ur actions .. it is very private perhaps she is not as close to u as u want her to be.. u cant make her be either.. i tell my bf everything and share things he dont tho i find out the hard way and it hurts.. so.. maybe that person is very private in general.. or only says happy things to u when she is happy.. and has happy news.. if u like her that much then bare with her in time she will open up perhaps she cant trust
2006-07-03 00:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why she ended up breaking up w/ them. Were the guys jerks and you knew it and tried to warn her and she didn't pay attention and it ended up true?
I wouldn't worry about why she didn't tell you..she doesn't like the share the bad,,,,but she loves to share the good which is why she tells you about the new guys.
2006-07-03 00:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she thinks you just don't need to know about the break-ups only the getting togethers... Be there for her, but don't get all upset cos she don't tell you everything...
2006-07-03 01:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody has stuff they like to keep private. if you think of your own private stuff over which you are sensitive, you will probably agree that it doesn't have to be for some good reason. also, she may be stressed out because of the break-ups and therefore doesn't want to talk about them. you should respect her privacy.
2006-07-03 01:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her do whatever, is her life you have to be her friend anyway she is.if you really a friend be honest about what you feel. sometimes friends are just friends
2006-07-03 01:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by noelia369 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋