Parents take so much trouble to bring up their children so why do they turn against them after marriage?

Answer 1

children think that it was their duty to bring them up
their own children will also think same about them
this is what you cll nature
but when we are old then we expect more from our children
so better save and live alone with what you have

Answer 2

Sometimes despite parents best efforts a child just turns out to be someone not very likeable. Maybe the child just manipulates and uses the parents for money. Maybe the child refuses to go to school or get a job and become productive. Maybe the child is out of control partying, doing drugs or drinking. At some point the parent has to decide if they are 'enabling' the child to be this way, and if so, they have to sever ties to stop the 'enabling'. If none of these reasons exists, then I'd say it's possible the parents have mental or emotional problems of their own. Since you don't give much information or background, guessing is all one can do. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I have never turned my back on my parents. In fact I get on betteer now with my parents than when I lived there.

Maybe some parents interfer and soem people dont like that. Parents can try and tell then how to bring their children up. As some might think they know better as they have done it before. Then parents wont back down on what they say and then the children just let them go.

My parents are great

Answer 4

What do you mean by "turn against"?
They may simply feel that they are being independent, while you feel that they are rejecting you.

When I first got married, we used to visit my in-laws almost every weekend. This was expected, and they resented that we did not live in the same city as them.

After a few years, we became parents ourselves, and started visiting only around 4-5 times a year. It was simply difficult to pack up our children and all their equipement, so we could run after them at my in-laws instead of enjoying the weekend.

My in-laws took strong offense that we visited less, and felt that we'd rejected them. We felt we had simply become our own family, and that we'd rather invite the in-laws to come visit US instead, since it was difficult to go to them.

To summarize, kids grow up. The family unit is no longer you and them. The NEW family unit is them and your grandkids. Of course, they love you strongly, but they have a family to deal with, plans of their own, lives of their own.

There is room for you, but less. You KNOW that raising kids takes over a person's whole world!
Try to understand this change in their lives, and find a way to reconcile yourself to it.

Answer 5

I'm not real clear on who you mean is turning their back, the children or the parent?
Wow, I can't imagine this happening. My son got married a little over 3 years ago & our relationship keeps getting stronger & stronger.
I see my daughter in law as a daughter I never got to have. Not to mention my grand daughters, there is nothing like seeing a part of your self in a beautiful little face that LOVES you with every fiber of her being!

Answer 6

Sounds as though their children have been given too much and perhaps parents have been too clinging. When you get married you want to live your own life. If parents realised this their children would respond accordingly and be more loving!

Answer 7

Remember, the present parents r once children
Tick for Tack, u got it?

Answer 8

children cant feel like parents.....i hate such ppl who turn their back to their parents after they have been established.

Answer 9

bcoz they dun understand!! learn moral leadership

Answer 10

horrible but it happens