2006-07-02 23:48:13 · 5 answers · asked by maralizevdm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
due to age
2006-07-02 23:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Deepak S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person progresses in his marriage, he becomes more and more familiar with his partner. Thus this familiarity sometimes, makes him less 'attracted' to his partner. You see, as human, we tend to set standards on things like, the kind of girl/guy you'd like to get with, the kind of job you'd like to be in, etc. In a marriage, we have to be realistic. Things such as looks, sex appeal tend to change slowly as the marriage progresses. Maybe you should take time off and sit down on your own and think about this. What do you see when you look at your spouse? Do you see the physical side or the emotional side? It helps to sometimes try to visualize your spouse more than just good bod good looks. Try excentuating on the goodness in your spouse like her understanding, patience. Then slowly try to recall back the way she looks when you tell her a piece of good news. The way she smile, the excitement in her eyes. Too often people tend to 'get used' to each other after spending so much time with each other that they forget the little amazing or even sexy details of their partners. Maybe you have been spending too much energy on work. That could be a factor too. When the mind is stressed out, the libido goes down too. Why not try taking time off, just the two of you. Try showering each other or soaking in the tub together. And please use your hands and really clean each other. I mean, no dirty stuff. Take the opportunity to really 'see' each other. Every inch of skin and flesh. At the end of it, you will get excited and things will take its natural course. Or maybe you could like try talking 'dirty' to each other. I mean like saying 'Your undies kinda sexy today' or 'Could you help me to scratch this spot? It's so itchy and I just can't reach it. Please?' or something. Try flirting with each other. Be like when you were before marriage. Only this this time, you are already familiar with each other so be more 'cheeky'. Learn to relax and appreciate each other. If you think the fat on her thighs and buttocks turn you off, then what do you think she feels about your big 'pouch' and love handles? So basically, it all depends on you. If you think sex after 15 years of marriage has come to a standstill and very routine, then you will definitely lose your interest. But if you think every single day is a new day with new discoveries and new adventures, and seize it with renewed zest, then sex after 15 years of marriage or 25 years even will not only be interesting but fulfilling. There's always room for improvement and improvision no matter how long you've been married.
2006-07-03 00:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Shasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be b'coz it has become a routine and everybody gets bored with the routine.
To spice up your life, look for options.
2006-07-02 23:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a third party involved, lol.
2006-07-03 00:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by Steaming emotions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is bcoz of stress if ur husband is active in sex to be honest try this tablet caverta it ,ll provoke u with more ses feeling u,ll fell like getting laisd everyday
2006-07-03 00:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by senthil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋