I m wrong??Plz help me out?

Question

I love my girlfriend alot.We r together from each other from 2 years n in future i wanna marry her but she dont allow me to touch her n when i try to get close to her she always stops me by saying after marriage..But we not gonna marry b4 5-6 years..Upto that time I just want to touch her,kiss her notthing more than that..M i wrong??

Answer 1

Dump her

Answer 2

You are definitely not wrong. You two don't even kiss, she won't even let you touch her. That is not sex. There is a difference between sex and a kiss. If you are not satisfied with the situation then yes you should definitely leave her alone. You should not have to wait 5 to 6 years to have a kiss. You already waited 2 years, and that is too long.

Saying all of this though you have to let her know that it is not just about sex. I can not express this deeply enough. You have to let her know that you do not want only sex from her but other forms of affection such as hugs, and kisses. You definitely need to communicate and she needs to know that she can trust you, and that you do not only want sex from her.

If she is having any other issues that does not have anything to do with you, being her boyfriend of two years and thinking about marrying you in the future says that she should have enough trust to confide in you. Try to talk to her and see if it is anything deeper than that , and if not, then yes you need to move on. If it is I hope that you two can work it out.

Answer 3

This is decision-making time. Look, you say you love her. Love encompasses respect. If she is uncomfortable with the type of touch/kiss you want to give her, you should respect that. That DOES NOT mean another approach WON'T work. People in relationships give up when their first approach doesn't work; they are put off because their partner does not react the way they expect. Listen, you have a right to want what you want, but always remember that the next person has a right to reject it.

Answer 4

Well, my dear, I think you do more than just want to kiss her :) Well, you should be happy to have a girl that is willing to wait for marriage. Shouldn't you too? Isn't that what God said?

She is being smart, for 1) no danger of getting pregnant 2) she has high moral values.

You should be proud to have such a girlfriend, besides, if you truly love her, you wouldn't bug her and also, who says that after sex you guys will continue to be together?

If you can't wait and respect her, then leave her to find a man who will.

Answer 5

i know you must love your girlfriend but her not wanting to do anything physical is a bit extreme. what is her hang-up neway; religion or strong morality explain why she's like this? youre absolutely right in wanting a bit of intimacy. i think your girl should give you a break. shes probably scared that you might intend to go further if she allows even a little bit of touching so she puts on full brakes. she should trust that if youve never taken advantage for 2 yrs then she has nothing to worry over. try to talk and reassure her; most likely she has unresolved issues with trust and intimacy. even if shes heavily religious she would want to hug and kiss innocently

Answer 6

If she says after marriage then just wait besides there are more ways to let her know that you care besides touching and kissing. Take her out on a picinic or buy her some flowers and candy. Sing her songs and write poetry about her. She just maybe afraid that she will let you go too far and then you'll be asking questions about babies and changing diapers. True Love WAITS.

Answer 7

You need to understand where she is coming from, Don't push her if you love her like you say you do then the best thing to do is wait. Take your time, let her know all you want to do is be with her tell her u love her and you don't want to have sex you just want to kiss her and hug her, just don't push her to hard or you might lose the one thing u love. It could also be your age and hers if your young then don't move fast get to really know each other just take this time to talk and spend time with her. Find out all you can about one another and just fall in love with her because if you can't talk and can't trust you will blow everything.

Answer 8

When she is referring to sex after marriage, it signifies that she is tradition bound girl, of deep christian faith and convictions. Her parents brought her up in conservative settings. Whatever it is, you should respect her wishes if you truly love her. Selfless love is true love. You say you were together for two years. You should know by this time her religious feelings, her christian values, upbringing etc. And you should learn to respect others wishes too. Whe she is sticking around you, you should appreciate that fact.

You say, you just want to touch her and kiss her etc. That is called petting. You know, in the heat of the moment, one thing leads to another and you end up having sex. You girl is afraid that she will not be able to stop herself or yourself once you start. So before ending up regretting for the consequences, she is wise in avoiding the pitfalls and taking precautions. Give thought to her values too!!!

Answer 9

You are not wrong. But are you sure that you really understand her. I can say you haven't. Do know what her perception about sex?

At first, you wanna kiss her; as you got it, you'll go to another phase. It's man desire. Your nick is deep love; but it doesn't deserve.

If you do love and respect her, you gotta follow her. 5 or 6 year is not a matter for true.

Answer 10

It sounds like she doesn't want to have sex before getting married. I think this is something you need to come out and ask her about. This is the only way you will truly know what is going on. You are not wrong for wanting to touch, and kiss her. Its only natural.Find out why she doesn't want that.,

Answer 11

Ur girlfreind may b gay or warped something is most certainly wrong. Mayb u need 2 find out what the true problem is b4 going any further. Sounds like she (u) have some real problems.