Tippers who tip, did you ever give extra because that person serving you may be a single mom with four kids? o

Question

Or do you just throw it at a charity so everyone will know you "GIVE?"

I see most only care about themselves here and noone else
problem, the ME ME ME syndrome
it ain't about you, it's about others and if you don't help, you did nothing.
Just trying to get others to be a little less selfish and a little more caring, if you push it more then you will have NO SERVICE

Also when youread this do you hear all the I DONT CARES?
No wonder you get crappy service.

Answer 1

Yes, I have paid extra, especially when it seems like the server has been working real hard and not getting a lot of respect for it. As my mom, and just recently my wife, said once, "they probably need it more than I do, and an extra dollar or two isn't going to break the bank!"

Peace,
VT

Answer 2

First, I agree with your follow up comment that there is a LOT of selfishness displayed in the answers. I am (sadly) amazed at the amount of relativism and egoism showing up in the responses related to morality. But I suppose that is the world in which we live.

Now to the topic of tipping. There are several different uses of tipping, two of which are (perhaps) most common. The first form (and the one people think of immediately) is a payment for service rendered. You tip the waiter/waitress at the restaurant, the person who cuts your hair, the cab driver, etc.

A lot of people, unfortunately, do not think about the tip much. They will leave a small token--if anything--just because they feel like they are supposed to do so.

For those who do think about it, tipping is first and foremost a payment for service, so the size of your tip should reflect the service you received. If the service was good, you should reward that; if the service was bad, reducing your tip is an appropriate way to "voice" your displeasure.

Within that, if I happen to know the status of the person I am tipping, I might increase the amount of the tip. That is a secondary concern for me, however--otherwise it does become an act of charity and no longer a "tip." Very seldom does a situation arise when the customer knows the personal situation of the person they are tipping, so I suspect that this doesn't come into play often.

I would hate to think, however, that a waitperson could generate more tips by wearing a pin that says, "Single mom, please help." The purpose of tipping is to reward good service.

Don't forget the second purpose of tipping, however. You might tip the maitre d' at a restaurant, the valet in the parking lot, or the tailor (before alterations to your garment). This sort of tip is a bribe of sorts--asking them to provide a bit of extra care and attention. For the maitre d', it is for a good seat--for the tailor it is that they will make sure and do the alterations correctly and carefully. So not all tipping is a "thank you" for services rendered--some tipping is a "bribe" for services yet to be rendered.

Answer 3

The question is more of if you give extra money as a gift rather than a tip. The tip IS for the service provided and if the service is good give more and if the service is not great then give 15%, but if the woman seems like she needs extra help give more as a gift not as a tip, of course it will all look the same, but it's about the way you think of it. Everyone who answered this question sais that they tip based on service, but if you left extra as a gift to help a struggling person then its not based on service. So I say if you feel like this person needs extra help figure out the tip 15% or more based on serviceand then go on and give an extra $10 or $20.

Answer 4

I would tip probally more so to a woman with four kids, the same amount I would to a single mom or even a man or single woman no kids, its the gratuity of the service you recieve reguardless their life away from home. After all its a job, in construction a mother of four wouldn't get any higher pay than a mother of one if they did they same job hired at the same time, with both having the same skills !! Its the quality of the job well done, not sympathy. Although if by chance I did have a mother of four wait on me and was having an exstremely bad situation at the time and unwilling said something about it yep I got a heart I would leave her more just for old fashion "What goes around comes around" and " Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"...... Just the rightious and moral, and human thing to do I reckon, but not of insignificant matters of life, would have to be tragic, or darn near it

Answer 5

I guess if you have 4 kids then you'll be a really good server since you have such good experience at home right? I don't care about your home life or if your 6 months pregnant when you bring me my burger...you didn't ask me if my car just broke down or my sister is in the hospital in the ICU. You don't know about my home life and I just came here to eat. If you give me good service, which is your job, I will give you a good tip. If you sit around talking to your friends and ignore me then I will give you a crappy tip, or no tip at all (remember, tips are not mandatory). I am not a stubborn tipper I just expect decent service and if you go above and beyond, I will tip above and beyond, regardless of if you are 18 or 80.

Answer 6

So what am i suppose to give someone who gives me bad service a larger tip because they have four kids, then someone else who doesn't have kids but yet is doing 110% better then the server with 4 kids? That would definitely me a no, I pay for the service you give not by how many children you have!

Answer 7

I pay for the service I received. I pay bonuses for that extra mile service. I am a regular in some places, and I know I'm gonna get good service, no doubt about it. I get what I pay for.

I don't dine out to learn about the drama of anyone on the staff. I dine out to spend money on my own pleasure. I want to enjoy good food, and I want to leave glad to have spent my time in the restaurant.

A restaurant comes to mind now where a member of management never fails to meet me at the door upon my leaving. He shakes my hand and expresses his gratitude for my loyal patronage. I enjoy that too.