What are your opinions on cheating. have u ever been cheated on or have u ever done the cheating?

Question

Im not dheating, lol, im in a happy stable loving relationship and have a young daughter. I have in the past, and have been on the recieving end of it many times, just wanted to know what people thought about it all xx

Answer 1

been on both sides. felt horrible after i did it. and hurt and ticked off when my ex did it. stay clear from it, no *** is worth the pain you cause or recieve.

Answer 2

You should not cheat. If you don't want to be with your partner, leave them. If things are a little boring or same old same old, spice them up. You can role play excitement into your lives more sexually and emotionally without the need for another person. Meet up at a bar and pretend you don't know each other and see how hot and heavy that gets! Cheating hurts, it destroys moral, self belief and self worth. It makes the other person doubt themselves and you see their love for you die in their eyes when they find out. It can be a crushing blow to someone when they feel that they were not enough for their partner. I have never believed the adage that it is only sex and means nothing because what does that say about the feeling or lack thereof when that person is having sex with you? Nothing? Don't be a cheater and don't accept being cheated on. Some people believe that human beings were never meant to stay faithful and I say perhaps but it is possible to commit to someone and never stray if you have the strength and desire to do so.

Answer 3

Someone said "how hard can it be to just leave"? It can be very complicated when children are involved and in my case I have decided to stay with my so called husband until the kids are old enough to take care of themselves.

I have been in a relationship with my lover for a few years and after 15 years of marriage, those years are the only ones when I have really been in love and felt love. We agreed that we wouldn't tell our spouces about our affair and that divorcing and breaking up two families and add 5 more children to the "divorced parents" collection wouldn't be any better.

However we feel that we like anyone else have the right to be happy and although we know it's not right, we believe that "what they don't know can't hurt them" and as long as this works out, we will keep it that way. Needless to say, we are both stuck in loveless marriages but we are all civilized adults and the children do not suffer. If the parents are constantly fighting I would say one of them should leave but if they can make things work out until the kids are grown and keep things civilized, I can't see how that is worse than breaking up two families.

You can judge me all you want but just think if you were stuck in my situation? Would you think you deserved to just stay at home and be unhappy (that would certainly affect the kids).

He who casts the first stone......

Answer 4

I've never cheated on my boyfriend and my boyfriend has never cheated on me I'm sure of that. Cheating is just plain wrong and it usually comes with a lot of reprecussions. In the moment you might not be thinking but its the aftermath that causes a whole lot of pain. I won't ever cheat, I was brought up in such a way and was instilled with certain values that I've never thought once of cheating on my boyfriend. I mean if I wanted to what would it accomplish. I'd lose him (the best thing that has ever happened to me). I don't want that ever. So in my head and in my heart I know I've got a good thing and I don't want to blow it with a cheap thrill. Because thats what cheating is, a cheap thrill. Its not worth it. When you've got a good thing, stop looking at the door and stop thinking something else good is going to come along. Thats the first step to take in not cheating, stop looking elsewhere but whats in front of you. Unfortunately cheating seems to be the 'it' of modern society. How to fix such a problem starts in every person's home. What you teach your kids and what you show by example will influence them.

Answer 5

My ex wife cheated on me. Given a choice, I'd prefer to have died, rather than go through that. It's been over 15 years now, and I still feel rage, loss, and depression. Granted, she behaved like a Jerry Springer episode, but it's destroyed my relationship with my father, and my brothers and sisters. Yes, ONE of the people she cheated with was my brother. Sadly, in a weak moment, I promiced my Dad I wouldn't kill him until Dad died. Now, it's too late, cuz my brother died, so I can no longer hope to kill him. THAT is something I'll always regret. As for cheating, during my 18 year marriage, I never cheated.

Answer 6

My ex cheated on me constantly but he and I both knew it and nothing was ever said it was kind of understood. I still believe my current husband is cheating even though he is adament that he isnt. I have found numerous dating sites and email addresses that he has created so I am about 90% sure that he is cheating. Today is our anniversary and he blew it off completely just like he did to my birthday in April. I guess that is confirmation, huh? My opinion is that it f****** hurts. Be honest and tell the other person you found someone else. Nothing hurts more than to discover it on your own and then continuously be lied to about it to the point that you drive yourself crazy trying to figure out reality and that you arent the one going crazy. It isnt fair and no one deserves to be lied to like that. Be a man, or woman, and admit to what you are doing. You both can sleep better knowing you are honest even if you are doing the wrong thing.

Answer 7

Often times people cheat because of something they are missing in their relationship. While this doesn't make it right it can be as much as someone noticing your new outfit, your hair or even paying attention to you. Sometimes partners begin to take each other for granted and then when someone gives them the least amount of attention it sometimes in a weak moment they may act on it. It is a horrible thing and I have been on the receiving end before and it caused me to take a long hard look at myself and my partner.

Answer 8

I found out in March that my husband cheated on me, the day before our first wedding anniversary. I stayed with him because I could see how much he was hurting, because he'd hurt me.
saying that, nothing has been the same since. we barely speak, we argue a lot, I've lost respect for him and he does nothing to regain that or my trust. He actually accused me of cheating, indirectly, when I visit my best friends - how happens to be male. although he does have a point - I would never ever cheat on my husband, I would leave him first. but I am in love with my friend. I have been before I got married, I was very close to caling the wedding off but I didnt -foolishly. Now i'm with a man I love but dont like, and the man who I trust 100%, who shares my dreams, who truly loves me for who I am.... he's unobtainable. He's in a long term relationship, and has told me he loves me too - but neither of us want to hurt our respective partners, even though they have both hurt us terribly.
so - cheating is not good! its horrid and it's destroying my marriage. doubtless one of us will leave the home soon, thankfully we have no children, but its a very sad end to what did start out (a long time ago) as a fairy story.

Answer 9

I have been cheated on. My opinion on it is; Don't make promises/commitments you don't intend to keep. If you should do either at least have enough decency to end the current relationship before you cross that bridge. If you've already crossed it then be woman or man enough to tell your significant other. Give them the opportunity to decide if they want to work it out. There are too many bad things that happen to good people when cheating is involved.

Answer 10

Ive done it, Ive had it done to me and Ive been the other woman. That was pants cos I knew deep down he would never leave her for me, and I actually thought that I was in love but maybe it was lust! I was 21 at the time and he was 35.
Having it done to me wasnt really a big issue for me. I was 20 and going out with this guy. I was just using him I think! Sex was pants and I found out he was doing a local **** behind my back, and his bros girlfriend. So me and his bro had a very drunk one night stand after meeting in a club. Holy sh*t!
I only ever did it once to someone that I love. I kissed a guy that I used to go out with when I first started seeing a bloke, who I didnt love at the time!
Im married now, and sometimes think about another man, but I know deep down that I could never sleep with him or anyone else because I love my husband. Might snog them if I was drunk though!!!! Only joking!

Answer 11

been cheated on and have been cheated on. The person i cheated on i still fill guilty about and that was 13 + years ago. I have been cheated on a few times. I think if you dont wanna be with the person then move on. wait till the break up then do what you want