My b/f's brother is 33 and lives at home. He works everyday and then goes home and stays in his room playing on the computer and etc. He only comes out of the room to eat and use the restroom. He won't socialize with the family and if you ask him something generally he raises his voice and says no or he's not interested or whatever. With these symptoms is it possibly a mental disorder that he may have? Oh yeah, we don't think he's ever had a girlfriend or anything and he isn't gay. He also has tons of swords hanging on his walls, which I'm afraid he may use on the family one day. Any suggestions as to what is going on mentally with him?
2006-07-02 21:44:47 · 12 answers · asked by rodaerc06 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh yeah, for those of you who need to know..his mother has a mental disorder that she's told me about but stated that she stopped her medicines years ago after she was adopted. She never told me what type of disorder but she said it all happened once she was abandoned by her parents. As for the brother in law, he also doesnt pick up anything and ONLY has a job because his father owns a software company and has a job through the family business, which has been left in the will to myself and my fiance when they pass away. His father stated that he doesnt want the other brother left with anything because of his weirdness. And I've known this family for a long time so it's not being nosy it's being concerned about a loved ones behavior.
2006-07-03 10:42:31 · update #1
That's weird; my coach is exactly the same way. Well, he has a job, because he teaches at my school and is a coach, but he hardly ever talks and when practice is over, he shuts himself up in his classroom, and grades papers. He still lives with his parents, and it's even worse than the guy you talked about because he is about 45. He's not nor ever has been married, has no kids, and I sincerely doubt that he has ever even had a girlfriend. I think guys like this aren't necessarily mentally disabled, but rather just dorks. I can't think of a better word, I'm sorry. I think they are just terrified of living life and they have gotten very secure in their little worlds and they don't ever want anything to change.
2006-07-03 04:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by katyswensen70 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Wow - that's pretty scary... What's your b/f say about him?
I doubt if it is a mental disorder, sounds more like a social disorder. I would suspect that he's never allowed anyone to get very close to him (as a friend or whatever). I think you both might need to take him out for a few beers and try to peel back a few layers of defense - get a feel for what he is thinking about.
Maybe he should ride a motorcycle or something... it's a good opportunity to socialize at a variety of different levels.
Good luck with that!
Cheers
2006-07-02 21:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by sal the dog 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not think he has a mental disorder. He seems to be able to hold down a job and that does not seem to interfere with his life outside work. Some people have a more private lifestyle than others. Maybe he is content to be on his computer or playing his games.
The rest of his lifestyle that he lets you observe don't cause any giant concerns that I see. I advise you to let him be. He may yet come around.
Good Luck!
2006-07-02 22:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by klund_pa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly concerned, speak to his immediate family, they know him much better than you could hope to guess. You shouldn't have a problem speaking openly with them. After all they are soon to be family. You had better learn how to be upfront and tactful now.
Other than that, it isn't really any of your business. He's grown and he works. His situation is working for him and his parents and that's all that matters. So what if he doesn't live some exciting life. Since when does collecting swords lead to death? That's really ignorant. He hasn't had a girlfriend? You really don't know that and it is no ones business anyway. Maybe you annoy the heck out of him and he is trying to let you know this by raising his voice because you constantly nose in where you don't belong. I would raise my voice to if someone tried for one minute to run my life. Come on, your getting married don't you have better things to do?
2006-07-02 21:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds Antisocial. All a Psych is going to do is give him meds that stimulate and tell him to participate in more outside structured activities. When his parents need to encourage him to get his residency. That might stimulate him to get out more because he doesn't have a mother that is enabling by allowing him to do what he is currently doing.
2006-07-03 02:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay,
To me it sounds like your brother inlaw to be might have Bipolar Disorder. You should speak to his parents and ask them what they might think could be wrong with him, as this Behavior is completly not normal.
2006-07-02 21:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible. There are many people who suffer from this kind of mental disorder.
2006-07-02 22:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by skdonweb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is normal, i think he is only a introvert, or he has some old scars remaining in the heart, which dont allow him to come out........
u need to counsel with the family doctor or any doctor by the way...
2006-07-02 22:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by dancingdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an "hard-to-swallow" way to solve this problem.
Just get a "Professional" to give him a good treatment and you will see the results....
2006-07-02 21:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i don't think he has a mental problem, he probably just wants to be left the **** alone.
2006-07-02 21:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋