My momma and wife are pulling me apart for their unconditional love. I've been married for 5 years. My wife tells me she doesn't want a momma's boy for a husband. She says every time we argue I go to my momma about it. Instead of keeping our marriage personal between the two of us. My momma is my friend as well as my momma. I go to her for advice all the time. However, when me and my wife argue. I try to give her time to cool off and myself as well. I tell her I want to talk about it. She doesn't so I say skip it and call my momma and talk to her over the phone about my problems with my wife. Am I wrong? My momma is my friend, I go to her for anything. Plus, when I do try to talk to my wife she don't want to talk about it even after cooling off later. What would you do?
2006-07-02 20:19:19 · 5 answers · asked by Shawn J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A man that treats his momma well will also treat his wife well.
Your marriage is between you and your wife, don't take your issues and problems to your momma, it will make her hate your wife. Wait until your wife cools down before you try to talk to her.
2006-07-02 20:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a mama's boy. #1 You are married! Stop running to your momma when the going gets tough. With our precious little boys, we always say the wife is the bad guy. Mommy never really is objective!
#2 momma has got to step back. Most likely she is always in the thick of things.
You want to save your marriage.........don't tell momma everything. A marriage is between a man and a woman. You are wrong to discuss your marriage with momma. She will never be objective!
2006-07-03 03:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by MOI 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to keep your marital problems bottled up inside you... you need to get things off your chest someway, somehow.
This isn't an attack... just a contribution of experience>>>
My ex-hubby was a mama's boy (he was constantly going to his mom's when he was needed at home... needed to love his wife & help with nurturing the kids).
He continually put (being with) his mama... 1st... above his wife & children.
Your wife needs to behave maturely enough to talk about & work out the problems, with you.
My daughter & I are more than just mother & daughter... we're best friends too.
I've cried on her shoulder & she's cried on mine... many times.
Sometimes, we need TLC from family, especially when we're going thru hard times.
However, in some cases, sometimes, it can make things even worse if we involve family members in our marital problems... especially if
it's unwelcomed by our partner.
It may help your marriage be a happier one, if you discuss things with a minister or a marriage counselor, instead of with your mom.
2006-07-03 04:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear don't get pulled off. ask u'r mom first to consider u'r wife as her daughter n not daughter in law from heart. n if she succeeds in this she will listen to her n try to resolve problems right there without involving u. u'r wife has come from another family n she might have lived with freedom n now she is bound of asking u n u'r mom regarding lots of things which she did independently before. so when u'r mom n u understand this then u'r wife will c the difference n she will become more co-operative n adjustable. all the best
2006-07-03 03:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by saran_kaur2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
disaster ! You should realy cut loose from mommy, NO woman likes to share her husband with his mother.
your wife is right in everything thats wrong between you two,just
because you let yout mother to be the "third party" in your marriage.
You gonna loose your wife in the end, if you do not stop this
behaviour. Your mother also should know better !!!!
Do you not have a good male friend to talk to ? If not- get one !
2006-07-03 03:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by destiny 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋