I've been knowing him for six years, been best friends for most of that. He's been with her for four years. I've tried being nice and keeping my mouth shut. She's not nice and has No genuine reason for not liking me. Now I'm not allowed over their home because 'She says so'. So I see him everywhere else. I'm close to his family & vice versa. He's awkward when we're all together. It's becoming uncomfortable. I care for him, but I feel like he should stick up for me...
2006-07-02 19:45:34 · 9 answers · asked by Lyric 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The wife is obviously jealous of you. He made his choice by telling you you are not welcome in his home, too. I think you should respect their marriage and just back off. Keep the memories of the old times, 'cause it's not going to be the same anymore.
2006-07-02 19:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Tracey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the wife sometimes trumps the female best friend. You must try and view it from her perspective - another woman in what has now become her space. She is insecure and probably in her mind is questioning if in fact you two were ever more then friends. As for your friend, he is torn b/t what to do he is confused. You may have to accept that things are changing and that your friendship may possibly be at an end.
However, my suggestion is that you should talk to them both, together, possibly even separately, but anyway, before a potential termination of a friendship, there needs to be a conversation.
2006-07-02 20:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by aj1908 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know as i was reading what you had to say i was wondering how i was gonna put it so, don't be expecting one of those supportive answers. I saw your last line "I care for him, but I feel like he should stick up for me....No, he should stick up for the one he is with. It has come the time for you as his friend to know your boundaries, and respect their space. You are his friend and want something , a place that's not yours , it's hers his "wife" aka Life's partner, "best friend.
She is not nice to "you" in your words, because she is putting up boundaries and your having a hard time respecting that. If your any kind of friend ,you'll respect them as a couple and ,move into your own business. She must be pretty special if he is abiding to this and has married her so, get over it and start minding your own life. Apparently, this man seems to only have room for 1 female best friend and it's seems clear and obvious who he chosen. Oh and you can't like her too much either if you think he should stick up for you. That's just plain sh it disturbing and wrong of you to even think that makes sense. You show how manipulating you are, you see him behind her back. You aren't trust worthy and she must have sensed that. She has every reason not too like you, your behavior with this friendship seems , on your part, selfish.
Sincerely;
Probably another " not nice" person in your books
2006-07-13 14:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by sasksxyf38fukersna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is because of his wife's jealousy towards you.
Try to imagine this... you are the wife. And your husband is going out to meet this so-called 6 years worth of old pal, who's a female, and not a male... and you only get to know your husband and this so-called good friend for 4 years.
Are you not worry?
Just don't meet up with this 'married' couple that often. You have option to look for other friends. And you must realize that, once a person gets married, things change - for better or worse.
I'd advise that you don't look for this friend no more, but look for other friends. Even if you and him are solely just friends, you must know that, his wife doesn't think so, people who doesn't really know you guys don't think so, and even lawyers don't think so if his wife intend to sue you for harrassing her husband by meeting out somewhere else.
Beware because this world is full of sh!t.
2006-07-02 20:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by CuriousBro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a straight forward factor that happens to human beings in communities, consistent with in-team/out-team identifications. In those circumstances, human beings in communities experience secure and that they belong. the team as an entire feels established while it confronts a straight forward risk or places down people who do not belong to their team. It makes the individuals experience unique, more suitable, useful, and greater bonded. It does not do something for friendships with human beings outdoors the team. There are, on the different hand, communities that concentration on doing good issues for different persons, yet then, they don't purchase right into a "in-team/out-team" mentality.
2016-12-08 15:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by bucks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weather you like it or not you are an outsider and you have no rights intervening on their relationship. YOU HAVE TO MAKE YOUR OWN LIFE and leave your friend alone. He has to start his family and soon with children so as a good friend keep your mouth shut and make your own life. HE is married so he has a commitment to someone for life.
2006-07-02 19:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by wiseornotyoudecide 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mind at all...it is very obvious as she feels very insecured as you were known ot his husband for quite a long time and she is not able to het out of that state...relax and keep talking to them and if possible talk to her personally ,This may help both of you
2006-07-02 19:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Raj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is insecure and thinks he will cheat on her. You have to give her time to get to know you or know of how you are. You have to respect his relationship because he is married. See if you can get a mutual person to talk to her and let her know how you feel.
2006-07-02 19:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortuantely the first woman in his life is his wife and if she's threatened by you being around he has to respect that first.
2006-07-02 19:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋