What can I do to get over him?
2006-07-02 19:15:37 · 21 answers · asked by lucky_duck123456 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Get all dolled up,go to the spa or mall,and you could probably meet some cute guys there.Flirt a little, not to much.Life will be better soon.This Joe guy doesn't deserve you.It is time to move on.
2006-07-02 19:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by sunshinee<3 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My immature self would say start dating someone else as that's usually the quickest way to forget, at least temporarily. But that doesn't really get to the root of the problem, does it? The problem is attachment. Attachments are a spiritual issue. I suggest you go on a quest to know truth, inside and out. I would start off by meditating, doing yoga or Tai Chi, & practicing being in the present moment. These are things that will strengthen you and not only give you the tools to find truth but also to cope with your grief. Grief is not something you need to bare. Be curious, sit with it. Examine as if you were an outsider to yourself. You might find it not as traumatic as you once thought upon objective examination. There are books I could suggest for you. Without the "Power of Now" by Echart Tolle I would have been a wreck from my last break up, but I found strength I was surprise to have obtained. This book teaches you to live in the present. If you live in the present you no longer are depressed about the past or worried for the future. Notice nature around you, or the conversations you are in, the job that you are doing, etc. In essence it's not just one day at a time, it is moment by moment, breath by breath. Breath. When you are freaking out remember to breath. Noticing our breath takes us out of our head where most pain is and grounds us back to earth. It also oxygenates the body making it stronger to deal with whatever crisis you feel you are going through. Finally remember time is on your side. As a great philosopher once said, "You can never step in the same river twice." This means that things will change for the better and for worse. The world is in constant flux and if your heart is hurting now chances are somewhere down the road it will be filled with joy. Do not be afraid of change instead make yourself its friend. There is much more I could say but I leave it to you to contact me if you want or need more help. I am truly sorry for your loss. Know that you are supported and have faith it will all be alright.
2006-07-02 19:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. But to help the time go by, try to keep busy with things that you have to concentrate on. It also helps if you go out with friends and do fun things. Just make sure that the things you do are not anyway connected to Joe (places you use to go with him, things he liked to do, etc).
For the most part, time is the only thing that will take away the pain. Hang in there, it may be a bumpy ride, but if you keep going it will smooth out sooner or later. Remember God does not close one door without opening another.
2006-07-02 19:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by Pandoras Box 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're depressed. It's natural that you feel this way. It's part of the "mourning" period and during this time you just have to roll with the punches. Believe it or not, each day it will get better. Talk to your friends and family, don't keep your feelings bottled up. Find things to do to keep yourself busy. As the old saying goes,
"That which does not kill us, makes us strong."
2006-07-02 19:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by Miss U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is start going out and meeting other people. You will never accomplish anything wallowing in what might of been and what could of been this will only keep you down as well as depressed and sad and really life is to short for that. Start adding new people in your life and you'll find he isn't all that important anymore........I wish you well
2006-07-02 19:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by Zoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 03:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him honestly.then leave d matter 2 god.if he finds him tht he deserves a nice girl like u then u will sure get him.if he is yours he will come back 2 u n if he dnt come then 4get him coz then he was not at all urs.
somtimes god make u meet many wrong people b4 getting d rite 1.so tht wen u get him u will b thankful 2 god.do listen d songs they will make u strong 4 d situation.dnt run away 4m reality.
god bless you
2006-07-02 19:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit the gym. Even tho its superficial, if you get into better shape you'll feel better about yourself, which equals more confidence. Meeting new people comes with new confidence and then soon its " oh wow i hadn't thought about joe for months "
It works from personal experience
Edit : haha not with a guy named joe with me tho haha
2006-07-02 19:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by Adam P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking to other guys, going out with friends. It will be hard at first but eventually day by day the pain will be less and less. I have been through that and it sucks! Try spending time with your family. That will help since you need to feel loved!
2006-07-02 19:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by xSilverStarx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your friends, unwind, and get yourself busy. You could also entertain some other suitors or hang out with your guyfriends. Sometimes it is true to say that to mend a broken heart, find somebody to help you get over with it.
I also tried it before. And I thought it's already the end of the world, but I then I told myself, "it's his lost, not mine!"
2006-07-02 19:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by *Jumeirah* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋