Family Planing at age 16 IS it Strange or Normal?!?

Question

Hey guys i'm wounderin if its normal for a 15 year old to start planning a family..it's my lil bro he and his gf wana get married at 16 then have kids....and they are planning their wedding and family each day is it NORMAL if so Please Define NORMAL lol...-_-

Answer 1

It is way too young for them to be thinking about marriage and kids,,,,,my brother and his wife now divorced (25years of marriage, with tons of issues) had their first when they were seniors in high school and pretty much ruined both of their lives and futures to have a decent life.
The two kids that they had together are struggling just to make it and they aren't going to college or seeking help to make a better life for themselves.


Don't do it.

Answer 2

Theoretically it is possible to have a sound marriage at 16. It is unlikely that this is the case here. More likely that they like each other and are bored and so they want something to do. They are bored because they haven't experienced enough of life yet. This is the basic problem here, and is why generally 16 year olds should not be married. As far as having kids, that should always wait until the body of the mother reaches physical maturity, so that the birth canal will be big enough for a truly healthy birth process. This happens at 18, in terms of the pelvic girdle reaching it's full size. Once again, however, these people don't know enough about life yet. Therefore, they have no business being parents, because part of being a parent is being an example of what it is to be a fully capable human being, to be a decent role model for children. My suggestion? They should experience a lot more about life. They should get educated. They should put all this on the backburner until 25-30.

Answer 3

Koodos for planning ahead but what happened to enjoying your childhood and getting the best education available. Starting young to plan ahead for a future is a great idea, however, actually getting married and starting a family at that age has its drawbacks. There's a lot to be said for completing your education, getting a good job, building up your credit, buying a home and having money in the bank before having a child. Call me old fashioned, but it's tough enough making a marriage last between two emotionally mature adults. Statistics show relationships between young couples do not last more than a year or two. They do not have what it takes to make it through the (getting to know you and learning to live with each other's idiosynchroses stage.) Immaturity is behind the problems that usually manifest themselves as money problems, inlaw problems, jealousy, failure to communicate. These things are handled better when the couple have had a few years experience in dating, learning what they want out of life and gaining the skills needed to be able to make this happen. So no it's not normal for 15 year olds to make such adult decisions and committments. It doesn't mean it won't work. It just means it will be a lot more difficult than if they waited for maturity.

Answer 4

I wouldn't exactly call it normal. Nor would I call it abnormal. Some kids think there soooo in love but it's not really true love. I think a college education is what should be on their minds. You can't support a family without money and then there is stress. You can't properly raise a family on a menial job ex. mcdonalds burgkng ect. So if they really and truly love each other they will put the family an hold, get a fantastic job with that education and then raise their family. But that's my opinion.

Answer 5

I really think it is normal for some personality types to start that early. I had the same ideas when I was 15. My daughter has friends aged 16 and 17 that have just this past year started this phase. I believe I got over it and my daughter's friends have also.

It is probably just a phase.

Start wondering if he buys her a ring and puts deposits down on a reception hall or apartment.

Answer 6

No, this isn't normal. A 16 year without a high school diploma won't be able to get a decent job. How are they planning on supporting their children? Where will they live? They should enjoy their youth!

Answer 7

Well, can they get married at 16 without parental consent? (I think there are one or two states that still allow it) If not, are both sets of parents ok with this? 16 is a little young, and statistiacally, they'll probably be divorced by the time they're 20, but it's their lives!

Answer 8

lol, hey at least they want to get married first. If you said sister I would have thought kinda normal to fantasize but a boy that makes it kinda weird. Boys usually don't even know what the hell is going on when they get to 20 let alone 15.

Answer 9

Well they can't marry without parental consent ---- and if they don't work there's no sense in making babies and becoming a drag on the economy---- tell them to get their education and jobs first and save 5,000.00 dollars before they do any baby making --- at the rate they are going they'll end up on welfare.....and that's no happy future ---- I know lots of teen moms raising kids --- the dads are no where in the picture --- that's reality --- dreams are fine but reality is that once you have kids you need money and lots of it to afford housing, food, car and pay bills ---- don't get tied up in all that in your teen years ---- lots of life to enjoy --- if they want to do something productive have them sign up for teen missions --- go to poor countries help build shelters, plant gardens, etc....volunteer to be big brother/big sister to younger kids,start a teen club that helps teen moms --- assist seniors that need someone to do chores, visit hurt kids in hospitals, be a pal and support partner for teens with problems----

Answer 10

15 year old boys should be dating a lot and enjoying child hood. Suggest he complete a minimum of one degree prior to wedding plans! same goes for his girlfriend!