My ex-girlfriend is getting married on July 8th with a guy she started cheating on me with 3 months before we broke up. We were together for two years and I basiclly supported her for 18 months of that. Since I bought most of the stuff in her apartment, do you think she should have to give that back to me before she gets married so she can start fresh with her new husban instead of me paying the bill for all her stuff?
2006-07-02 18:02:53 · 19 answers · asked by NOVA50 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She also charged up $20,000 on my credit card.
2006-07-02 18:29:26 · update #1
Ouch! Sounds like someone has their feelings hurt! Hmmm, maybe you?
Look, you left her with all of that stuff for all of this time, now that you hear she is going to get married, are you certain that you are not looking for a reason to interject yourself in her life, or to try to make her life more difficult because you think she may have a chance for some long-term happiness?
Don't be petty, consider it a cheap lesson, and before you sign up to support another girl, maybe you need to make sure she wants to marry YOU?...That way you will not have to worry about taking things back that you may have bought for her when the relationship is over.
Let it go and consider it a wedding present, if I were you I would not even bother her with it, why would you stress over a bunch of second hand stuff? Do yourself a favor and "get over it".
2006-07-02 18:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by ruthie_msw 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-07 19:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by Alisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, put it this way, you could ask for your stuff back and when/if you get it, keep it around with all the memories of the good times and the reminders of the bitterness you still bear for her lack of consideration. Or you could just chalk it up as a loss for now, material wise, but take what you have learned into your future as now you are more equipped with knowledge of the things you will be looking for in your future love. However, beware to not make your future love pay for what your past one has done to you.
2006-07-02 18:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by msjuliet2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend sorry for that but this is true if any amount u needed to payment for u r Ex- girlfriend then u recover the ayment then give the stuff why u r payment .?? And get find a girl who loves u and getting marry with her.. so Good luck
2006-07-02 18:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lemme understand this. It was her apartment, and you furnished it? And then apparantly you moved out...Is that also right? Unless you had some kind of agreement, I'd say she did quite well. If she was cheating on you, that represents her lack of morals. Thus I dont believe you'll be seeing payment for any of the stuff. Nor any payment on your credit card either.
Looks like you've had a very expensive life lesson. I hope your next choice is a better one!
2006-07-02 18:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i understand why you are feeling this. Recently I was dumped and my ex had the audacity to post me all the presents and letters I had given with so much love. I felt I was being provoked but I kept silent even though inside, it made me feel worthless. I kept telling myself, 'i am above this. i don't need to stoop so low.'
I don't believe you want your stuff back because you're petty but because you are still hurting and feel some bitterness towards the whole series of events. and of course you will, it's completely natural. however, try and come out of it with dignity. She walked away from you despite promises made and there is no grace in that. Hold on to your integrity and don't ask for your stuff back. Believe me, you will gain tremendous self respect for this. I think its in poor taste and honestly, are you that materialistic? I doubt it. Be strong, my friend. Letting go demands great courage.
2006-07-02 18:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by freudianslipper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man are you a cheap bastard. Consider it a wedding gift and forget about the $$ you spend on the "stuff". If I were her, I'd hack it all and then give it back to you. Lay off and step out of her life, Dude. GROW UP!
2006-07-02 18:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the mutual understanding about the things you bought? Was the stuff you bought for her a gift, or did she agree to pay you back for it? If it was a gift, then you are stuck.
2006-07-02 18:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by G.V. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its very expensive then,yes, she should give it back. You payed with your own money and you have the right to get it back. Especially if she left you and now she's getting married.
2006-07-02 18:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was something you bought her as a gift.....no
if you was together so long how come it was her apartment and not the two of yours?The only thing she should give back is if there was an engagement ring.
2006-07-02 18:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋