Ouch....well, if you aren't happy and never have been, then you need to get out. But, as far as the thing at work, I'd be careful since she is trying to get out of her relationship, too. Maybe you do have a connection. You both need to use each other to get out of a situation you both don't want to be in. If the relationship with the co-worker would last? Probably not/unlikely - but ya never know! Good luck! Hope you'll be happy some day!
2006-07-02 18:02:51
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answered by Amanda 2
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Never ever stay with someone because there are children involved. You think that you are saving them from being hurt, but you are not. There is nothing worse than a child growing up in a family with parents that do not love eachother. (Yes children can tell) You might want to try going to counseling before giving up on the whole thing. There is a reason you married your wife, and you just might be able to find that again. Under no circumstances should you ever cheat on your wife. It will only cause more problems than you already have. Even though there is nothing physical with this other woman that does not make what you are doing ok. An emotional affair hurts more that a physical one. Deal with your home life before you move on.
2006-07-03 01:09:57
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answered by Fishermans Wife 3
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Just because there's no spark doesn't mean you can't find one. Don't just split up until you've tried everything you can to create that spark your talking about. It won't be the exact one you have with the friend at work but it shouldn't be. Your wife is unique and you did marry her for a reason. Even if you go to counseling to see why you feel the way you do and then get her in counseling with you do what you need to first. At least then you gave it your best and you won't have to wonder if you did the right thing divorcing her. You don't want to have regrets and even though you have a little something with this friend you don't have a guarantee that things will work out with her either.
2006-07-03 01:18:17
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answered by Countrygirl 5
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You should back away from the chick at work. Why do you two want to break up two families for a "connection" between you?? It's only a fasination. You have a good woman and a child...what is wrong with you?? People get bored with relationships every day, and suddenly they perk back up. Maybe you should put as much attention into your wife as you're doing into the chippie at work and things will improve. At any rate, counseling would help you, so get some. Work romances NEVER work out! Act like a man and take responsibility for your own actions.
2006-07-03 01:34:55
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answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7
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You are "**** stupid". To begin with you have fallen into the classic "I'm not happy at home ...boo hoo etc" to one of the other women at work. This is lust nothing more. You have gotten yourself married and now the fun of the marriage has worn off and you're left with reality. Let's say you get divorced, break this woman's heart and the other gal gets divorced and you two hook up. First you will pay 20% of your net income until your child gets to be 18 years of age. Then you can expect to pay for medical bills, college(at least 1/2) and divide any marital assets you have now.
Second this "other woman" you don't know anything about. You may think you do, but you really don't. I trashed a good girlfriend for the same circumstance at work and found myself in a deeper "**** soup" than I was before. I thought I knoew this woman and I knew her for over four years! SHe turned out to be "psycho". A nice sexy psycho but a psycho none the less. I lost a good GF and she got a "fantasy Island" trip. I wasted two years on this woman. Until you get them free and out of the office and dating you don't know them.
If you get along with the wife it's best to keep her. Has she gotten fat? Does the sex suck? You need to look real hard and check out the following website for your own good. It will give you the answers you are looking for.
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
Good luck you;re gonna a need it
2006-07-03 01:39:55
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answered by hoyhoydc 3
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I have been living with a husband who I can make happy either, and we have a young child. Frankly, I think that staying together won't help.
As a wife whom he expects the world off, I am tired and exhausted. It is doing a lot of damage to my physical and mental health.
I dont' know what you should do cause I am sitting in the same boat except,I am the wife in this situation. I wish I knew the answer, all I want is to make my child happy, nothing eles matters now anymore.
2006-07-03 01:09:13
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answered by Sheila 3
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Get over yourself, if you didn't love your wife you never should have married her in the first place, and the reason why there's no spark is because your to busy thinking about doing this other woman.
If you leave your wife for this woman your son will strongly dislike you (I know from experience, coming from the child's view).
If you declared your love in front of God, you need to give your love and your marriage back to Him because it's quite clear you and everybody else for that matter can't do it without him.
And as I've said before the grass may look greener on the other side, but once you get over there you realize it's just dead grass painted to look better.
2006-07-03 01:05:19
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answered by 2smomma77 1
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The truth is you went about this **** all backwards. If you did not love your wife you should not have married her and had children. You and you "friend" at work are both stains on society. If you do get together with her you will never trust each other because you both know that the other is a liar and cheat. Personally I hope the other girl's husband finds out about you, comes to your house, and gives you what you deserve.
2006-07-03 01:43:29
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answered by Scott B 2
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you know if you were not showing interest to someone else you would not be trying to rethink your relationship i think you are wrong i feel like you should tell your wife the truth and if SHE decides to stay with you , you get counseling your wife will be truly hurt by your actions you sound like a really slimy guy who tried to post his question in an innocent way i read right through you buddy you are no good you would be lucky to keep your wife and child maybe god will bless them with a REAL MAN who knows who he is what he wants and how to cherish what he has you do not deserve your family and they surely don't deserve the crap you are trying to dump on them. give your self a hand !!!!
2006-07-03 01:07:59
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answered by ? 3
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Yes get divorced., right away... staying with someone just because you have a young child. I stayed with someone cause i had his son... if i would have left sooner then i did.. i would have found happness faster then i did... you should not stay with a person if you don't love them, just because you have a child.... good luck and i hope you take my advice. like i said i wish i would not have waited 4 years to break up with my husband... i should have done it when he was a baby.. it would have been easyier on my son and i if i would have left when i fell out of love... good luck
2006-07-03 01:05:57
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answered by tkeetot 1
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