Is there something wrong with him? I never had a boyfriend who proposed marraige like this after six months! He said he wants to get married in the future in a couple of years. And he has kids in El Salvador out of wedlock with a lady! I don't know how to handle this situation. I love him, but I will wait 6 years before I consider marrying a person and besides, someone already had a family with him. I don't know what to think about that and I don't know if there will ever be a future with him because of this. HELP!
2006-07-02 17:49:58 · 8 answers · asked by brighid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is my opinion that he is completely head over heels for you and with rose covered classes he foresees a long and happy future with you. 6 Months is an extremely short amount of time to start proposing to another person. The point of dating is to find out all the quirks and qualms that person has, with a critical eye studying all the good and bad traits, to decide whether a life long commitment is possible in regards to compatibility and trust. It seems like he has already gotten this decision firmly implanted in his mind.
Again in my opinion it is too bad that he already has another family, that will just make you second in his life for the rest of yours. I sincerely believe that you should not give in to your expected time of wait before you wed. Marriage is no small thing and deserves a lot of respect from both parties in regards to its massive meaning. I suggest that you continue to just date him. If he wants to be with you for the rest of eternity then he should want to be with you no matter what, even if you two are not married. Though you have to be care-full. If he tries to force marriage on you then there is usually some other motive other than love behind it.
2006-07-02 18:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has 6 months to live and you get pregnant now, he won't even be alive to see you give birth!!!!! But lets say he lives longer than that, say 9 months. The baby will be a newborn when he passes. I understand your situation but the reality is this - when he does pass away, YOU will be the one stuck with the baby, and being a single mother is not easy, especially at your age. Who would even make that decision by choice?!! Why don't you have a young nephew, niece, sibling or friend spend time with you guys? Do you know anyone with a baby? My goodness, borrow that baby for a while. You'll see how time-consuming and tiring taking care of an infant really is. Could there be anything else he'd like to do with you besides have a baby?! If he'll be passing away in 6 months, what's the point of having one? Sorry to be so blunt, just trying to shine some light on you, that's all.
2016-03-27 02:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there's something wrong with him. The children are a problem but what's being out of wedlock have to do with it? If he had gone through a trivial marriage ceremony that would somehow make it ok? You can handle this situation by saying no and breaking up with him. What's more, you shouldn't even consider doing it in six years. Find something else to aspire to like an education, a career and a purpose in life other than to be Suzy ******* homemaker.
2006-07-02 19:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to ask yourself what would 6 years change. Either you love him and are willing to stay with him for the rest of your life or your not. If you would not stick with him don't string him along. It sounds like a bad situation. Just so you know having kids makes things MUCH more difficult. Having a few years together with no kids helps a marriage greatly. My parents did that an they have been married for almost 40 years(and still counting). What ever you do is your decision.
2006-07-02 18:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Today is the Day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's wrong with that? I proposed to my then-girlfriend after two weeks of courtship and she said yes. We have married for a little over 2 years now. But then again, neither of us had any kids nor did we have any previous marriages, which is a bit different in your case. But as far as proposing in 6 months, I really see nothing wrong with it.
For your information, I had proposed to a girl in my class when I was only 7 and had not even dated her. But that was quite a different story.
2006-07-02 18:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by knitting guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you stick to your guns and wait those 6 years..... if he can't wait, he's telling your that he don't love you, and you are not worth the wait.
2006-07-02 17:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by Man Defined 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a man is talking that shi t just watch your step because it's never what it seems
2006-07-02 17:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by midnight red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a gay, or possibly a school boy *****
2006-07-02 18:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by peacebro167 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋