why is it women respond to rude guys but not nice ones i've seen times where women actually said (now this is the stupidest soundin thing in the world) i couldnt be with him because he was too nice............too nice???? TOO NICE?????how the hell do you act too nice? then women wonder why they cant find a good man because they purposely pass them up.
2006-07-02 17:10:51 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because woman doesn't want to be with a person that she doesn't feel superior to. If she is superior, then she gets to ride that person's butt right out of the marriage and house and maybe even his life. Then she feels good about herself.
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2006-07-02 17:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I know this will sound stupid to you as a guy, we have to walk that fine line between being a completely overly-confident, arogont a$$hole who treats the girl like $hit, and the way to nice, kiss her *** everywhere she goes, paying attention to her every need type of guy.
So lay out a horizontal scale of 1 - 10. Put 'Way-to-nice and Chivarly' on the 1. Then, on the opposite side, put 'Cocky, arrogant a$$hole'.
Now try to act like a 5 or a 6. It's screwed up but that's it way it works my friend. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule but in a nut shell, girls want that 5 or 6 and find it way more attractive. Good luck and may the dating gods be with you.
2006-07-02 17:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by E3_E3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stupid is such a harsh word...
No, by doing that they ain't stupid. They are just being young.
But i don't get it either. There's something a about a bad boy. But you know. I just think that, women probably think that the nice guys will wait for them. So if a woman is single they'd go have a few thrills and spills before they actually settle down for the "too nice" guy.
2006-07-02 17:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by --- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I once dated (a long time ago) a guy who was "too nice".
A woman want a man who has his own mind and knows what it is he want to do and where he want to go. A leader who is strong in his mind and spirit.
When a guy cannot make a decision and only does what the woman want to do or eat where the woman want to eat, that is plan boring!!
This guy only wanted to do what I wanted to do. He would always ask "where do you want to go and eat?" Then I would suggest us going to a place he wanted to go, he would always want to go somewhere that I suggested!! ALL THE TIME!!
That got on my last nerve and I had to let him go!!
He absolutely agreed with everything I had to say, there was never just a little conflict of him asserting himself.
We don't want down right rude and obnocious men. We want someone who has it together and his head is on straight and he has confidence in himself so he can lead in a relationship.
Don't be a door mat and let the woman run all over you for the sake of being nice.
2006-07-02 17:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by geminisista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who the hell has turned down a man because he is too nice? By the way, 'you are too nice for me' is a phrase women often use in the same way as men use 'i am not ready for a relationship right now' OR 'I'll call' and then nothing.
2006-07-02 17:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by girlnextdoor2000in 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women want an adventurous type of guy. Someone who takes risks and gets what he wants. Someone too nice can become safe and boring.
Although, I wouldn't stop being nice. It's still a great attribute to have. Eventually a nice girl will come along.
2006-07-02 17:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by TheMagicWand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are saying a man is too "NICE", it means that he is retricting us too much and not providing us any excitement and thrilling happenings. He is just too pathetic and dull and boring and not doing anything to improve the relationship.
Maybe he can improve by bringing us to a romantic place like beach or starring night field.. Anything which is special and we have never experienced before, Or can do somthing which is adventurous together even it is not that good.. Think of any idea which is juicy and tasteful! Godd luck~
2006-07-02 17:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by a V a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well apparently you are not in that category of too nice from your question... and I actually looked for a nice guy and found one. He was a keeper, after 34 years of marriage he still is as nice as he was, and I am glad I was not into lousy guys. Why go through crap the rest of your life, when you can be treated wonderfully by your best friend?
2006-07-02 17:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by still learning at 56 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me? As a woman I take offense to your question. It sounds like you've been spending time with the wrong women. I wouldn't not date a man because he is too nice. I prefer nice men, which I why I married one. Please stop judging an entire gender based on a few women.
2006-07-02 17:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are not stupid its just that a tooo nice of a guy tends to sort of a push over women like a challenge unlike men we don't want someone to walk behind us but along side of us
2006-07-02 17:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that nice boys are bad, it is that a woman wants a guy that is nice, treats her good, makes her dinner, gives her the remote, but also has a back bone, if they are i an agruement and they are right don't back down so easily, at least try to win. We like nice boys, but also with a little fight in them...........nice during the day and naughty at night.....nice but not to nice..don't beat your woman but still show you are the man also....and to nice only means that you give up on a fight, you clean the dishes while she eats bon bons on the couch, you do the laundry while she is sleeping.........ya get what i am sayin?
2006-07-02 17:18:12 · answer #11 · answered by Merisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋